No I do not think it is healthy. Get counseling or get out. Or end up like me regretting being married to a man that hurts my feelings daily. I have zero self esteem and often wish I was dead.

wow, I would have just turned around and walked away. Then ask them what makes them say that. I put up with that for years and but in the end, I threw in the towel. Now I am way better off than before.

That is a not-so-simple fact of marriage that warrants the insulation of compassion. The raw fact has many abusive potentials.

No, it’s not at all healthy. The state of mind to even ask this question has red flags. If my words or actions hurt her feelings then I would be responsible for acknowledging that and be more aware of how it came up. That’s like saying I burn breakfast every day, get used to it. No, change skillets and turn the heat down.

Gary Chapman wrote a book called "The Five Love Languages."

He also wrote something about the "Five Languages of Apology" (I might have the name mixed up a little).

THAT has helped me identify what I couldn't put into words, as most important after a disagreement.

Disagreements occur (whether with a spouse, coworkers, etc,). If you feel slighted, the type of apology you are needing may be lacking. Apologies help repair the rifts formed and are tremendously necessary.

I would encourage anyone to read his writing. It's quite easy and quick, and even had an online questionnaire to help pinpoint your preferences.

But no.... I would say how you wrote it... it would not be healthy. Look into Chapman's writings. It might be a good conversation starter???

I think it’s healthy to expect at times that people do and say things that can feel hurtful, during an argument on disagreement but as a rule, the way you pose the question, no.