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How to start somethng new??...

Brave.cee
Brave.cee

i want to get to know more people and things but when i meet new people i go distance but not purpously and i dont know why. i kind of think i do. i got sick in 2016 and since then i been distance and paying more attention to my health and i think after a while i got use to being so alone, without a crowd of friends, and having a certain friends by my side all the time. that i feel like i dont know how to be interactive around other, i do, but i think i be.... just feel weird like i dont belong. do you guys think that normal??. how do i brake that habbit of being alone? how can i get back to being the outgoing one in the group?...

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Do you have any old friends that you'd want to call up and see if they'd like to go out for lunch or an outing?

There are groups like MeetUp's that get together for many things like dances, coffee and conversation, bowling almost anything that you can think of

Volunteer work is a good way to me new people as well..... Good for you for wanting to get back out there.... It can be hard when you've be isolating

One step at a time is good..... If you are feeling uncomfortable about a lot of conversation at first maybe look at MeetUp's for things like movies
rmb
rmb
Hi I went through a similar thing where I got really sick and it was pretty serious. sort of just went inward which is not like me but I felt like I didn’t know how else to be. I actually think in hindsight I was suffering a bit from depression. I didn’t know that at the time. But eventually I just really tried to focus on my closest friends, the kind who give you the space and accept you where you are and as you are but also give you a kick in the ass when needed.

Maybe call someone you haven’t talked to in a while, and just say, I’ve been thinking about you and hope we can get together sometime. If they want to great. If not, that their thing not yours. Move on. If that feels awkward, then just start somewhere, like church, school, gym or anything, even a book club, just to get back in the habit of being around others. Then as you get more comfortable you will find it easier to make friends or engage others.

You are ok. You really are.
Brave.cee
Brave.cee
thank you both, that really mean a lot. yeah I guess I can look into more things like that. I think that would help. <3 <3 <3.
krr
krr
Hey! I'm sorry you're feeling distant...putting yourself out there to anyone can be really nerve wracking and dealing with sickness on top of that is really hard...Maybe reaching out to people and asking to hang out and catch up in an environment you feel most comfortable in would be a good idea so you can warm up to people easier!
CNichole78
CNichole78
Brave.cee...I'm distant on purpose, but I know it's a defense mechanism. I have trust issues and don't let people get too close. Sometimes you have to take baby steps. I'm sure you have friends that maybe you just haven't kept in touch with because of your health, which is understandable. Maybe give one of them a call and start out with catching up over the phone.
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