A healthy relationship starts with yourself. If your secure with who you are, then your less susceptible to feel trauma from disagreements or saddle emotional resentment towards your partner because you don't always find yourself on the same side of a topic of discussion. Healthy relationships are not structured pleasantries where everyone acts like an employee of Disneyland. Your human. Your going to have good days and bad days. Accept that early and don't use those moments as a barometer of your relevance together. The sooner you can be yourselves, the better off you are.

But above all things, there MUST be trust and communication. Without that, you have NOTHING. You must be able to communicate within that circle of two. If your having to go outside that bond and take a straw vote or poll, your undermining the union. NO ONE'S opinion should take relevance over the one whom you share everything with. And respect the differences each of you share in what you like to do. Being together doesn't mean you die as an individual. Quite the contrary. It means you celebrate who each of you are.

Another important factor... patience. Your partner is not always going to burn that sparkle in your eyes. Some days they might actually blow it out. That's normal. So don't allow moods or emotional days to carry more meaning than they should. Also invest in the qualities that last - namely the values they carry. Are they good people? Do they carry themselves consistently from person to person or are they different in various circles? How you see a person act around others is a good indicator of how honest they are with you. So make sure your partner exhibits strong character traits.

And finally...learn when to zip it. Understanding your partner means you don't express yourself every moment of day when your feeling something. Learn to extend understanding and learn to offer silent 'forgiveness' for little things that might piss you off. Just because your feeling something doesn't mean your partner has to answer for it. Learn to manage your emotions and understand that if your partner is doing something to upset you, it may not be on purpose. So examine and reflect on the issue and talk about it when your not as emotional. Believe me. It just makes matters so much better.

Thank you, I was feeling rejected for a moment. You offer such great insight. I have to work on controlling my emotions. You are also right just because I am feeling something does not make my parter responsible to answer for it. I really want to be with him he is trully amazing, and I, seem to sabotage things with my issues. I want to change, not for him, but for me. Thank you for your wise words.

A healthy relationship begins with you. Trust and honest communication are essential in beginning to enjoy a healthy relationship. Above all else healthy boundaries in addition to your partner understanding that you have a threshold (level of frustation tolerance) and that you are human above all else.

Hugs to you.

Livetowin gives great advice here!
Treat him how you would want to be treated. I learned impatience growing up and do not wish to be like my mother yet we find ourselves in the very spot we didn't want to at times. I am with a very patient man and when things bother me I have learned to not say everything I am thinking. It sounds like you have a need to BE HEARD. I understand how that is. Also you can make a joke out of it. When I get upset and into a tizzy at times my boyfriend will say "don't get your undies in a bundle" or something. He compliments me and I am learning that his peace is what I wish for. Don't make everything an upset inside. He isn't trying to "intentionally" hurt you.

Also accept who you are is who you are and stop making yourself wrong for it. Embrace the parts you may not like and once you stop judging yourself about "how things should be" you will feel less pressure and not needing to be right all the time about something. :)

I find ways to laugh at myself, which is not difficult.

Well, maybe if you could identify what sets you off and why. Sometimes seemingly small things can have a deep-seated emotional association for you-- like if he does something that reminds you of an ex, or a family member or someone that mistreated you and it just pushes your buttons.

I think taking the time to write things out by yourself might be a good idea. I don't know what you're mad about so I don't know if it's significant or what, but this is what's done in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

Basically, you chart out the event, how it makes you feel, then why it makes you feel that way (like "the way he talks reminds me of my dad yelling at me" or whatever). Then finally, you counter it with a more rational thought like "Well, he just wanted to watch another TV show, it's not a big deal". Or "he doesn't really hate me" etc. etc.

I think talking about it with him before you do this might actually lead to more bickering. If you get enraged, you really have to get some distance and figure out what sets you off and why. Because if you're set off by really minor things, then you can't expect him to walk on eggshells. But if he's doing something really disrespectful (and you may need to analyze if it's really intentionally disrepectful or if that's just your perception based on past negative experience) then that's another thing.

I also don't think silent treatment is good either; if you're just festering emotionally, you're not addressing your inner emotions even if you're not yelling.