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Hot and Cold

mysteryman73
mysteryman73
Just curious why woman do this,I liked this woman went out a couple times started giving me the cold shoulder and she took me off facebook. Ok no big deal, moved on then she sees me at the bar, ask for my number again and is all over me at this bar. I set up dates and now she cancels on two dates.
rmb
rmb
Was she tipsy at the bar when she ran into you? I just wonder if she was a little drunk and uninhibited, and forgot herself and the fact she blew you off before.

I don't think it's a women specific thing. I think some people just kind of jerks, for one reason or another. Whatever the reason, she doesn't sound like someone you'd want to give any more chances to.
mysteryman73
mysteryman73
I'm not giving her anymore chances, she wasn't drunk. It she seems like a game to some people.
rmb
rmb
Yeah, it very well may have been a game. I don't know why people do things like that.
koolman
koolman
Hormones. Mental disorder. Or, yes, she enjoys f-ckin' with ya.
calirn13
calirn13
She was drunk and you were familiar.... men do the same thing... familiar opportunity. It's not right in either instance.
No More Chances
patti22
patti22
Good twin, bad twin?

On meds, off meds?

I don't think many people do this, but those that do have more issues than you want to know about.
SleepyWalrus
SleepyWalrus
An abusive woman I dated in college would do the hot/cold thing to an extent (it would never drop to no contact and the "hot" periods tended to coincide with when she wanted something from me).

I know our situations were different, but the point remains that if someone does the hot/cold thing with you like that it could be because they're trying to use you.
koolman
koolman
Or she could just be a forgetful ditz.
refurb
refurb
hot/cold = asshole
Aronia
Aronia
It is not a woman thing. I agree with rmb - it is an asshole thing.
Aronia
Aronia
And everything the other languages said
Misred
Misred
Yep, she's a jerk. Don't waste any more time on her
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