hi guys so im not in a relationship but ive stepped into the dating pool. for like the very first time kind of. ive never dated guys just had relationships with them which was my mistake cuz i always jumped too fast. now im 23 and i just want to get to know people and see if i would want a relationship with them. i went on a date with this guy last night it seems like he has some issues to work thru from past relationship/hurrts in life but so do i. thats why im not ready for a relationship. im working thru some deep crap right now. getting better yes. improving my self esteem and going with the flow of life.gaining self confidence and forgiveness and letting the past go. not easy sometimes it comes to bite me when i least expect it. thats my triggers. but this guy is super sweet. and we have a lot in common. hmm. hes a wrestler, and loves adventure maybe a little too much?? like i worry about his safety i guess. but thats on him i guess. i think he has ADD and a little bit of anger issues. but it is healthy he is into fitness and wrestling. another guy i dated he took things fast and wanted a relationship right now and i didnt. we didnt have important things in common like i think i do with new guy. it just wasnt right so i talked to him about it. i guess i am hurt about it tho cuz my expectations were too high but now i kind lowered them. i did have fun last night. we got locked in a park and had to get the police to get us out. we took a walk on the canal (a very long walk) had garbage plates, and fed the ducks. we ended up holding hands it felt right. however, i know we both arent ready for relationships.