And above the belt, and around the belt, and anywhere it might hurt...

Reading your journals made me want to cry. Leave, please leave. Counseling.

Please consider joining the Physical and Emotional Abuse Board here on DS.
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical-Emotional-Abuse/support-group

This is my first post on this forum, but I just read your journal and I'm with Patti.

As I was reading I was thinking that if this was anything within the realm of what having a life partner was like, I would happily stay alone forever.

I'm sorry:(. It sounds draining and demeaning. I could never do it.

This is so hurtful and abusive emjay... I was with a nasty piece of work once for a short while and I can tell you that being on your own peaceful and content is so much better

I agree with Patti that the Abuse board here is very good and you'll gain some good insight and support there.... Big hug and a blessing...x

Reading your journals and other things you've posted in the past, what a confusing, frustrating, exasperating situation you're in. Are you in counseling? I know he may want no part of marriage counseling, but I think individual counseling for you could help you work through things, understand how you want to move forward, even how to best respond and react to him when he behaves this way.



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#1, says all that should be said

Counseling for yourself would hopefully open your eyes so that you could see how off kilter your husband is

Thank you ladies. We can go through the evening like last night, very nicely. But then something was said this morning where I disagreed and he started pouting. And now he's not talking to me....again.

Between a job and that, you must be tired. I would be exhausted and beyond. Really sorry he's what he is. Sucks. Take good care of you and decide your destiny. Ugh the way you describe your man just makes me go blaaaaaaa.... ick..poo.

Apologies if I'm blunt, but you've shared a bit before. Your situation doesn't appear to be improving.

Don't forget in the "he" ness of it all (the world does revolve around him after all), you deserve to be happy and peaceful. XO

my guess.. he is retired.. bored and only has you in his life. He has nothing else to talk about, but about the same things, cus he has nothing else to talk about.

He needs a hobby. Something to be engaged in everyday. I know he is retired, sounds like he works on side projects, but not enough to be able to have an interest outside of waiting for you to get home so he can get some love, human interaction , etc.

Usually this happens when you have a stay at home mom. She only has kids around all day and needs adult interaction. Your relationship is still fairly new and for him, without the buziness all day to wear him out, he has energy at night when you have none.

its hard to juggle between that.

He needs interest outside of you. You need some help around the house since you work all day. If you two can communicate, being this early in the marriage, it can work out for you. But if he can't get his head out of his pity party of retirement, then Its will be a struggle for awhile.

much luck your way.

ChiTownBear, you hit the nail on the head! We're supposed to be passing papers next month on a house that has a 3 car garage. He has hopes to restore a Willy's wagon. He;s been without a project for year and I told him it will be great for him to get started.

I have the phone back but not my debit card. He tells me that the balance in the checking account is not mine since it's the end of the month and MY money has all been used/ WHAT?! My next check, next Friday, will be withdrawn by me at the bank and will never be direct deposited therafter. I've had it.

Thats the best thing for you emjay. Take your power back and away from him.

He's got NO right to control you like an eight year old.

I'm so glad you're taking action on this because if you don't, it's just going to get worse.

Stay strong. It will be so worth it.:)

With all due respect, he may be retired and bored, but he's a whole lot of other yuck as well. If I were you, I'd figure out a way to get out of closing on a new home with him real fast. The hole will just get deeper...

Taking your phone and credit card, bull----. You are a grown adult who has a job. SMH

Itwist, it was already planned that my name will NOT be on the deed. I cannot wait until tomorrow to make that appointment with a counselor. He attempted to apologize this morning, but I told him that we have a LONG way to go before we can get close.

I made a few more entries in my journal. I"m confused with this new site.

This man is not just bored, he is abusive.