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When I met my current boyfriend he told me he was trying to quit porn.He confided in me and told me that, I didn't ask him too but he did, at the time I dint think nothing of it since it was the beginning of our relationship. I know he was open with me, and I should feel grateful that the confided in me, but instead my stupid jealousy just distorted everything, Since he told me that he was trying to quit porn I assumed he wouldn't never watch porn anymore, which is kind of unreasonable of me to think since I have watched a lot of porn and know how addicting it can be. Some months into the relationship I started being very clingy, insecure and jealous about stuff that didn't even made sense and he start using porn again (only occasionally 1 or two times a week) and this has made me very insecure and anxious. Currently he completely gave up his porn usage in order for me to feel better and start fixing our relationship, I feel like I'm such a hypocrite because I am bisexual and I like porn a lot, I even watch it occasionally to satisfy that lesbian part of me but feel insecure if he watches his porn, wtf is wrong with me? I dont want him to completely gave up his porn usage, I just don't want to be bothered or jealous by it. Since I am bisexual sometimes we have watched porn together and it has been very sexy beacuse we usually fantasize about 3somes or me being a lesbian and him watching. On these ocasions I have gotten very turned on but not always because sometimes my jealousy gets in the way. In addition I'm very self conscious about my physique even though I look very young fpr my age (I'm currently 29), have long blonde hair, I am skinny, had a breast augmentation 5 years ago and people (men and woman) are always complementing me, no matter how good I think I look I am constantly disatisfied and trying to be perfect which is very tiring, I feel like I could get more plastic surgery and still not be happy with my looks, because I am always comparing myself to hollywood actrees and super hot porn stars. I feel like this jealousy is more about myself than the actions of my boyfriend. When I feel very confident about myself (which is rarely) my jealousy levels diminish significantly, any advice, I want to embrace my owm sexyness and not feel threatened of something that my boyfriend does and I do to, I want to stop being unreasonable and get back tp enjoy my llife and my relationship
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Look at what my best friend did with my picture!
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We all have 24 hours in a day. How we spend these hours is important. Watching a little bit of a video about how sitting affects us made me aware of how much sitting and laying down I do. Gonna have to work on that.Your turn. Tell me another truth.
It means that the person sees a problem, and hasn't overcome it yet.
Removing stuff from your life that prompts you to feel insecure, like comparing yourself to airbrushed models might help.
You need to start digesting the fact that you look good.
If your bf was single for two years before he met you it doesn't sound like you have to worry about him leaving you
Try to ban insecure patterns of repetitive thinking and distracting yourself or challenging your thoughts with CBT
Only watch porn together as that feels ok
I know how it feels to feel insecure in a relationship and for the person to refuse to reassure you. They weren't my friend so maybe that was why