I would not get involved in this situation.

Too much drama involved.

I would also suggest that you give yourself time to heal after your divorce is finalized.

Do not get involved with anyone at the moment as well as after your divorce is finalized.

Focus on yourself as well as on your daughter.

Spend time with your friends and family.

I would walk away from this man.

I also think he is selfish for wanting to keep you on the back burner while he works himself out.

I also think it is unwise for him to try and be friends with her. He needs to cut all ties and move on.

Walk away and save yourself some pain!

You deserve better than that.

Don't let him drag you along for the ride; not fair.

Wow! Sounds like I'm in this situation! My ex wants to work on being friends but he has a g/f. I'm not sure anymore I can because my feelings for him came back and I want more than a friendship and he knows that. I don't want to share him and want him to myself but he clearly doesn't know what he wants. I say do what you want as no one knows how you feel inside for him. He does still love her so the thing that stinks about this is that he may never love you like her or he could you never know. Everyone is different. You are going through a divorce for whatever reason and it is probably best to be with someone next who will give you his whole heart! In the end you know what is best for you and everyone will tell you what they believe. Just be cautious. If this guy is anything like my ex he will hurt you the way he hurt me and could even be lying she has a g/f to spare your feelings. Its a cycle for him and these types of men.

His feelings for her are not your problem, but they will become a HUGE problem if you persue any sort of relationship.
You want him, he wants her, shes with another man.. none of you can have each other.
Who wants you??
Take care of yourself and your daughter. She is absolutely going to need your attention for a while.

Thank you everyone for your replies. It is just so difficult to walk away. He was my first crush, first kiss and is a good friend as well. So there is the nostalgia, sentimentality, etc... But I cannot sit here and wait until he sorts himself out over his ex.

"Good friends" dont string one girl along while going after another whom they still love. You may want to reassess your definition of what a good friend is. This guy is not one of them.

I don't think he is stringing you along. He is making his feelings and intentions known. He is being point-blank with you, admitting his situation.

I think you are fully aware of the situation and have what you need to make a decision, fully knowing what the consequences are.