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Havin a HUGE problem.

YoungDepressedMom
YoungDepressedMom
I am 26. I have been with my husband since I was 14. He is 10 years older than me. For as long as I could remember I have had "curiousity" about other women. Recently though I have started having strong feelings about another girl. I have tried to talk to my husband about it, but he just gets mad and treats me like crap. I understand though. the feelings will not go away, they keep getting stronger. I decided to stop being around her for a while, but it isn't helping. I can't stop thinking about her. I just don't know what to do. Sorry this was so long.
slrow
slrow
I am not a believer in bisexual relationships or being gay or Lesbian but I will not bash anyone for it. I will say that you are doing you and your family a diservice by not living your life to make you happy. Do you know for sure that this other girl even has feelings for you?? The best way to live life is to be true to yourself first.
If your husband is not giving you the support you need that is one thing but if it is just infactuation with the opposite sex than you could tear your family apart for no reason. If you feel like you know 100% that you are a Lesbian than i would say that it isn't fair to your husband for you to live a lie.
I hope that you can discern weather the feelings you feel are just for a fling or something more. I would hate to see you rip your family apart. Maybe you need to seek a counselor that could help you decide weather the feelings you have are real or curiosity before you do anything drastic. I hope that you can figure out what is best for you and your family. Best of luck to you :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
A man may be able to answer better on how your hubby feels with you being interested in another woman. I have had conversations with men where they had a hard time with their girlfriend/wife going for another woman. They feel it is worse than them cheating with another man. So, that is why your hubby is having a hard time with this.

Have you checked to see if there are any support groups on here that can address this issue?
bonusjack
bonusjack
Have you asked him, or do you know, how he would feel about having an open marriage, where both of you could have sideshow attractions whenever you wanted to? You are probably headed for divorce either way, but an open marriage would produce a lot less blaming until one of you decided to chuck it for a better piece.
MuchLoveXOXO
MuchLoveXOXO
for goodness sake! he has been with you since you were only 14! and he was 24 when you met.
you were so young, you never had a chance to figure anything out.

i think he should respect you feelings... but treat you like crap instead? you ARE allowed to feel whatever way you want - do not feel guilty about how you feel, that is what he is trying to do to you.
Correct me if im wrong.

just remember, you are young and beautiful.
Life is too short to be Unhappy. Live it, Love it!
YoungDepressedMom
YoungDepressedMom
He said he will not share me. I don't want to leave him cuz we have kids. I don't know what to do.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You don't want to leave him because you have kids.

You are prepared to stay even if neither of you love each other anymore?
You are prepared to stay in a hetrosexual marriage - even if you suspect you are lesbian/bisexual?
You will put up with all kinds of discontent, unhappiness, dishonesty, dissatisfaction rather than leave - because you have kids???

Are you sure about this? Or is it fear that holds you back?
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