Yes I know that i said that I don't have anything against gay or bi people many times.
I'm sorry if this post offends anyone.
I guess I'm wondering if these people are good for me.
Am I making a big deal out of nothing. I don't think I am.
I think things have gone to far and I may gently push them both out of my life.

well the truth is you cant take the gay out of a gay guy. they are always going to "act gay" talk about gay stuff and make gay jokes.
the hitting on you and directly making inuendos to you and even pinching your ass.. that is over the line,. that is when it becomes disrespectful.
i would seriously say you should sit down and have an honest and open conversation with them. i would tell them that you feel extremely disrespected wen they hit on you or touch you, that youve made clear your sexual preferences and the unwaranted advances are just plain ignorant and that it can cause you to sever ties if they cant respect you in that way.
as far as the jokes ( if theyre just gay in general not directed at you ) thats not something u can get them to stop or even demand they do.. straight people make straight jokes and everyone laughs, why cant they laugh at a gay joke?
if gay people make you uncomfortable then u probably shouldnt hang out with them. i understand you said u have nothing against them but to say :" hey man stop with all the gay shit" .. that isnt cool and will come off to them as though u do in fact have a problem with gays. I am not an expert and im straight ( well i used to be bi but got tired of it ) ... but its my opinion that a gay person is born gay, its not a choice they have made its just who they are and cant be changed just cause some people dont approve or cant deal..
supporting this statement... my ex husband had 2 children with another woman before me.. they were both boys. when i got with him they were 3 and 4. we used to sit and make jokes about the 4 yr old one because he always "acted " girly and like we just kinda knew he was gonna grow up gay ( thats what we would say and laugh about ) ./ hes an adult now and is very much gay. and a cross dresser.. so this is one of the reasons i strongly believe they are born that way.
good luck

I do agree that they are born that way.
When I say enough of the gay shit it's when they're directing it towards me. I can laugh at some of the stuff that's said but I can't say that I can at all of it. Alot of it is disgusting. Alot of what's said is in great detail and it bothers me because of how graphic it is. It's not always gay stuff. The bi guy considers himself straight. I'm a bit of a perv but they make me look like a saint. I think a lot of what's been said and I can't really talk or joke about anything sexual anymore. They sort of fuced that up with the constant teasing.
I know that i can pull back and not be around them as much.
I will be kind to them, just not around them all of the time.

yea thats the best route..straight or gay if someone makes you uncomfortable its probably best not to be around them :)

I agree with freak.

If you were female and these gents were doing this it would be called harassment.

It's not their 'gay shit,' they're crossing the line. Not everyone has to be overtly sexual. This is harassment. They are not respecting you.

Their behavior has nothing to do with being gay i think. They have a problem with boundaries of respect and personal space. This is a universal violation and applies to all genders and ages .
You have the right to say that if they do not knock it off, your friendship will be over. I wouldnt put up with this crap.

I've known a lot of gay and bi people. I agree that it gets uncomfortable when they don't respect boundaries. A gay woman once came to my apartment, ostensibly to borrow a stamp and envelope--but she ended up "pushing the envelope", if you get what I mean. She was dressed in just panties and a T-shirt with no bra. She was acting "cute". She sat near me on the sofa and if she'd touched me, I would have been upset. I hustled her out of the apt. as soon as I could.

My experience with gays and their "perv" sense of humor is that they like to "shock" straight people. They must think that after all these years we don't KNOW what they do with each other? LOL. Some of them appear quite immature. But as the other posts have pointed out, some straight people harass and are very inappropriate, so don't take this as "gay bashing".

I agree with freakchick, I think they are harassing you, but I think telling them to "knock the gay shit off" is sending a message that you don't respect them either.

You have every right to be upset, but a different approach might be more successful. Tell them you feel disrespected and harassed and their behavior is no more acceptable than a man harassing a woman and you don't want to be in their presence if they keep crossing boundaries. Don't mention 'gay' just focus on the harassment. If they don't get the point you need to distance yourself from someone who doesn't respect you.

Thanks for all of your replies. I've had friends like this before. I got tired of the harassment and quit hanging out with them.
They've helped me out a lot but it's not like I haven't returned the favor.
Friends have boundaries.
The guy who is bi wants to be best friends. I've told him that friendships like that take time to develop. I can't just say hey I think you're the best friend I've ever had. Stuff like that takes time to develop.
I think that I'm a very kind and caring guy that people like to take advantage of.
I think I might need to change a bit.

I had only 1 or 2 close gay friends in my life, both female. Not even once any boundaries were crossed . There is no reason to do that.

Here's an idea: Talk "straight shit"! Out-gross them by talking in great detail about cunnilingus, menstruation, childbirth and big boobies! See who can get more graphic.

Aronia. Thank you. I know that this isn't acceptable. I've had friends and I never felt uncomfortable.
Koolman I don't know if that would work. Lol

It would at least disspell your discomfort with humor. And talking about clits, labia lips, the monthly red river and the placenta fluid gushing out like Niagra Falls during childbirth should nauseate the fudge-packers sufficiently, give them a taste of their own medicine.

I'll give it a shot.