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I am a guy who enjoys having friends around. I have made a couple of friends that kind of make me feel uncomfortable at times. Gay sexual inuendos and 1 jokingly pinched my ass and I punched him in the face.
1 is gay and the other is bi. I'm kinda the center of attention because they like to annoy me. I'm a bit of a homphobic person. I don't try to be but that's the way I am. They pick up on that and I've told them that I really hate the constant talk about gay shit. Oh yeah the bi 1 really gets annoyed by anyone calling him bi. He says he's straight and that a couple of Dicks in your mouth when you were younger doesn't make you gay.
I don't really know if I can call either 1 of them a friend.
I had friends in the past and we didn't make each other feel uncomfortable.
I have nothing against gay or bi people but I'm not gay or bi.
What I can tell you that's good about them is that they both can be good friends. They have helped me get on my feet. They can both lend an ear when I'm down. They are both decent individuals.
I don't want to kick them out of my life, I just want a little respect.
I don't have anything against gay or bi people.
I do hate the constant gay talk. Flirting with me and saying perverted shit.
They do it to get a rise out of me and to just piss me off.
I'm tired of it.
I tell them to knock the gay shit off.
I'm not telling them to stop being gay but to respect me enough not to incorporate me in their jokes.
I feel like I'm whining but shouldn't they respect me more and leave me out of the conversation.
They can talk about what ever they want and I'd be fine with it as long as the conversation doesn't come back to me.
1 is gay and the other is bi. I'm kinda the center of attention because they like to annoy me. I'm a bit of a homphobic person. I don't try to be but that's the way I am. They pick up on that and I've told them that I really hate the constant talk about gay shit. Oh yeah the bi 1 really gets annoyed by anyone calling him bi. He says he's straight and that a couple of Dicks in your mouth when you were younger doesn't make you gay.
I don't really know if I can call either 1 of them a friend.
I had friends in the past and we didn't make each other feel uncomfortable.
I have nothing against gay or bi people but I'm not gay or bi.
What I can tell you that's good about them is that they both can be good friends. They have helped me get on my feet. They can both lend an ear when I'm down. They are both decent individuals.
I don't want to kick them out of my life, I just want a little respect.
I don't have anything against gay or bi people.
I do hate the constant gay talk. Flirting with me and saying perverted shit.
They do it to get a rise out of me and to just piss me off.
I'm tired of it.
I tell them to knock the gay shit off.
I'm not telling them to stop being gay but to respect me enough not to incorporate me in their jokes.
I feel like I'm whining but shouldn't they respect me more and leave me out of the conversation.
They can talk about what ever they want and I'd be fine with it as long as the conversation doesn't come back to me.
All of us had a talk last night we settled things and I thought it was all over but the gay 1 let's call him Jeff I'm tired of calling him the gay 1. Not all gay people are like this. Well Jeff said that he thinks I'm hiding the fact that I'm homosexual. Me and Jeff have had long conversations multiple times where I clearly stated that I'm not gay but he insists on putting that label on me. I finally lost it and told him off. Jeff didn't even know why I was angry. I had to get the other 1 to explain it and he did. It still didn't get through to him and I asked him to leave my house. I think he is a little mentally handicapped and I feel sorry for him. I'm going to be his friend but when his insinuations start up I'll just tell him to leave.
What I've done when this happens, at first ignore it, give them a cold stare or cold shoulder, or maybe make a joke about it.. Depends on the person. If they continue to escalate it (after giving them a light warning), I call them out on it directly-"I don't do that, or I am not that kind of girl (or guy in your case)". Or possibly (ok probably) avoid them altogether, If that doesn't work, but I can't avoid it (usually because I work with them, or possibly because I still value our friendship-rare), I will have a talk with them.
Sounds like the talk with your bi (or not bi) friend went ok. Sounds like a keeper. Gay friend, if it were me, I'd avoid him altogether, I'm guessing he thinks everyone would swing that way if given the right circumstances. Let him go...
I've decided to be his friend but only on my terms.
That means when he starts talking shit about me being gay I will make him leave. I actually had to get my other friend to kick him out of the house last night. When I start to get angry at him I will tell him to leave. I don't know if he will eventually get the idea or not. He will either finally understand that I consider him as a friend because I a good person and not gay or he will get fed up with me kicking him out of my house. Either 1 doesn't really matter to me. I'm done with the insinuations.
like those pens you turn upside down and the ladies clothes come off, things shaped like boobs maybe hang some ladies undies off his rear view mirror.. lol and constantly tell him.. "You know you want some P*ssy" lol.. See how HE likes it!