OMG, I wish I could hug you right now!!!! I am so Happy for you!!! Yay!!! I am so very glad you finally got rid of that horrible man! Now keep moving no looking back! xoxoxoxox

Good for you, let your yourself grieve your losses.
I say that about myself i am safe, i am okay and i
Have peace. Hope all goes well for you. HUGS

I.am sooooo happy to hear this. The last few times you've posted, it seemed you were starting to really rurn that corner so to see this message, sheesh, I just am so happy to see how far you've come and really make changes. . Do you know how much courage that takes?! Remember this moment forever, how much strength you really have, how much you are valuing yourself, how proud your daughter must be.
And yes, do not look back. Keep looking forward, surround yourself with the support and give him nothing of you, not one second thought.

Sunny, I'm soooooo happy for you!!! You are definitely on the right track!! He is a textbook psychopath. I'm so glad you finally broke free. It will be hard at first but each day will get slightly easier, I promise. Stay here for support. Don't go back, whatever you do. Don't take his calls. Block him from every form of communication so he can't try to suck you back in. You can do this! Your life is about to become so much better.

So glad you left. Stay strong. Your life will be so much different.

I am so happy to read this and that you're safe and sound... Eventually you'll have peace of mind ... I agree you are courageous ... You Go Girl!!... Big hug and a blessing...xo

I don't know your story since I'm kind of new here, but it sounds like you did the right thing. Please be strong and don't turn back. Hugs.

Thank you everyone,Im so touched by your replies.
I still have a long way to go. I will have to go back and have a final talk with him about finances etc, I plan to do that on Thursday. I am thinking I might go back to school. Although I had started my business I need to get myself together and get healthy before I can relaunch that. I am about 150 miles away from where I lived with him so a completely fresh start.
The things which I thought were holding me back turned out to not be so bad anyway. The debt and my children.
I am thinking I could look for work, like a proper serious career job but I don't feel like I am emotionally stable enough to do that. Although we have the benefit system over here it doesn't support me. If I go back to school I can get a loan to study and a living allowance, I have two years left before I graduate which would give me enough time to get the divorce sorted and the finances settled. I can work if I am a student too…..so they are my initial thoughts.
He has only contacted me once after a few days, it was a horrible text tirade about how horrible I am. Since then it has been silence. Im not sure what to make of that.
He also told me to give him a few days notice before I came back. Im not sure what to make of that. He then said it was a joke.

I was trying to find all my old posts as I am struggling to remember some of the nasty things he did to me, this was kind of my log of all that stuff. I can't seem to find my old posts on here…. anyone know how I can find them?

I'm not sure how to look at old posts since the website changed. But if there's a way you could meet him in a public place to discuss things, that may be better. He may behave better and you may feel less vulnerable.

I am so proud of you and cant tell what a wise decision you made! I know it hurts and its scary as you walked away from everything you knew and now you face starting over. Take some time to heal as there is usually a lot of trauma to recover from an abusive relationship. When you feel strong again you will be able to move on and start again. I mean no offence here, but this is the time for you to learn from past mistakes and not make them again. When you are ready for a new relationship trust your intincts as they will lead you in the right direction. Not all men in the world are abusive douche bags , but there appears to be a lot of them out there so take your time and move slowly. Again I am so proud of you and I wish you all the luck in the world!

((((((( Hug)))))))
Sunny I am SO proud of you.... So proud. I want to cry.

It sounds like you made a smart choice!

I feel really uncomfortable right now, vulnerable, confused but yet better than i have in ages. I feel a bit detached from it all.
But i know i cant go back. I need to move forward, it will be great to get thursday out of the way.
I already changed my name by Deed Poll.
I appreciate your support so much xxx

Hugs

Had a terrible day, just want the pain to stop, remind me this will get better...l. I feel the pull back into his arms....