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Feeling lost.

tressiesue45
tressiesue45

Hello, I’m new here and feeling lost. 


I have been married to my current husband a little over a year. When we met and dated he was a dream. 


However, that has been changing more and more each time we have a disagreement. Anytime I upset him he becomes very verbally demeaning. I have gone to therapy, started school at the age of 45,  anything I can to be good enough and literally turned myself upside down trying to make him happy. He’s great until I make him mad. 

Goldielocks5
Goldielocks5
My ex was like this. He was great up until he put a ring on it. I asked him why he was getting so mad at me and he blamed everything on me. Overtime he became worse and verbally abusive and started getting violent. I ended it with him, A few years later we got back in touch. He admitted later he could never be the man I deserved and everything was his fault. If your hubby is anything like my ex, sounds like something is bothering him inside and he is taking it out on you. Have you tried couples therapy?
tressiesue45
tressiesue45
Yes. I have tried everything! I know I need to leave, it’s getting the courage to do it. He isolated from everyone he can and I feel so alone.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Welcome tressie....... I'm glad that you've found us.....

You don't 'make him mad' sweetie..... That anger is within him and he lashes out .... This is abusive

If he isn't willing to get help either with you or on his own I would consider what comes next for you

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness

Control freaks and abusers do isolate you.....

I would call a woman's abuse shelter...... they understand what's going on so well however I would make sure you are safe when doing so

Do you have any family who can help you?

Crisis resources

https://support.dailystrength.org/hc/en-us/articles/207430776-What-if-I-need-emergency-help-
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