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I have been sober for 2 years but my boyfriend still drinks on occasion and that is fine. I am glad that I get to be his DD. He brought it up again though. He is a lovey drunk and likes to go into future wants. He tells me he is going to make me his wife and that he wants to start trying to have children. This is great and all but the next day it’s like it never happened. I know he isn’t going to just propose like that and honestly I have told him I am afraid to get married.
This weekend he stated he is afraid to get married “again”. He was married before me and it wasn’t a good one. I agreed but then he said but I want to get married to you. He also said he is ready to start trying for a child “again” because he is not getting any younger. We have gotten pregnant before but he freaked out and wasn’t ready! It is really tough on my emotions to deal with this, kind of sucks being a women with all these hormones. When he in the sober mind he says I don’t make enough money to move in with him. I know I only have to laugh and ignore these dreamy comments but I really cannot wait for the day when it is real and I can actually get married. This is a true test on my patients!
*Sometimes I feel like I should just never get married and that I should just raise my one son I have for the next 16 years then live the good life in my 40’s :/ Such a negative thought but I feel so cold.
Thank You for letting me vent!
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
I think marriage should be saved for someone who doesn't flip-flop from one day to another - with or without alcohol!
drop your boyfriend he is likely to stay in the nymph stage and never become an adult
It just breaks your heart when the reality sets in
You also wrote that he says you don't make enough money to move in with him.... I think that's a pretty insulting statement
I agree that you can't believe what someone who's drunk says.... Big hug..... xo
He has an allergy to alcohol which at least stops him from over drinking.
He has been very stressed lately and therefore it hasn't helped. I try to be the best friend I can and stay out of the way so I don't cause anymore issues but it is tough when life keeps moving. I can't help that his moods rub off on me as well.
*My Sign*
The Capricorn is the strong friend, they will always be there to help, they are very sympathetic, caring and helpful to a friend in need. A Capricorn will get someone back on their feet again with a steady plan for success and for all this, they expect nothing in return. The Capricorn friend is deep and mysterious and full of intrigue, there always seems to be something going on in their mind.
Sympathy isn't always helpful....and it can cause people to become enablers ... empathy is though .. I think we all need to have empathy for our fellow man
You've written that he's allergic to alcohol but he drinks between 1 and 3 times a week ... That doesn't make a lot of sense and it sounds dangerous
Big hug and I wish you well on your decision.....xo