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So I'm going to try to make this quick.
This girl... I've known her for about a year, she's incredibly intelligent for her age and it makes her slightly asocial.
A few days ago she messaged me after we just drifted apart, she wanted to tell me she was feeling like crap that some people have been fucking with her or whatever (not going into details about that). In the midst of that conversation, she tells me her birthday is coming up.
For whatever madness, I decide to surprise her at her school and bring a book as a birthday gift... I ask for someone to tell her I'm there. She comes running out of the gates and jumps onto me. She's crying and telling me that she missed me. It was clear that she felt relieved.
I gave her the book, she thanked me and we go take a walk. She tells me what's been happening and just leans on me the whole way. After that day, I send her a message saying that she has my help if she ever needs it. She tells me to come again the next day and she'll give me "an answer".
I come back and we just sit on a bench somewhere where she lays her head on my lap. I ask her about what she meant with "an answer", she tells me she's tired of talking and that she's gonna take priority on actions, and then she leaves.
Can someone explain to me what's going on?
This girl... I've known her for about a year, she's incredibly intelligent for her age and it makes her slightly asocial.
A few days ago she messaged me after we just drifted apart, she wanted to tell me she was feeling like crap that some people have been fucking with her or whatever (not going into details about that). In the midst of that conversation, she tells me her birthday is coming up.
For whatever madness, I decide to surprise her at her school and bring a book as a birthday gift... I ask for someone to tell her I'm there. She comes running out of the gates and jumps onto me. She's crying and telling me that she missed me. It was clear that she felt relieved.
I gave her the book, she thanked me and we go take a walk. She tells me what's been happening and just leans on me the whole way. After that day, I send her a message saying that she has my help if she ever needs it. She tells me to come again the next day and she'll give me "an answer".
I come back and we just sit on a bench somewhere where she lays her head on my lap. I ask her about what she meant with "an answer", she tells me she's tired of talking and that she's gonna take priority on actions, and then she leaves.
Can someone explain to me what's going on?
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Now that I am not talking to my whatever best friend, I realized that her life is full of drama. I had grown tired of hearing her stories about her boyfriend many months ago. She basically had been monopolizing conversations for that long too. She pretty much stopped asking me questions about me. I passed her in front of her classroom the other day and didn't even look at her. I am...
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Just had an interesting conversation with ChatGPT! It was kind of like talking kindly to myself. You should get the App. It's free.
But again, it's all hard to say for sure.
Her behavior seems appropriate for an immature young girl. To me it seems like something happened to her, she was having a down time and then you showed up and made it all better and she started feeling wonderful.
A mature woman would say : " hey , I really appreciate what you did for me and the birthday present. Let me take you out to dinner tomorrow"
This is how normal people take action. Unfortunately, I don't feel like this girl really knows what's going on and what to do and that's OK.
I m not saying this to be a downer, just be careful falling for her. She has a lot of growing up to do in this department.