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So I'm going to try to make this quick.
This girl... I've known her for about a year, she's incredibly intelligent for her age and it makes her slightly asocial.
A few days ago she messaged me after we just drifted apart, she wanted to tell me she was feeling like crap that some people have been fucking with her or whatever (not going into details about that). In the midst of that conversation, she tells me her birthday is coming up.
For whatever madness, I decide to surprise her at her school and bring a book as a birthday gift... I ask for someone to tell her I'm there. She comes running out of the gates and jumps onto me. She's crying and telling me that she missed me. It was clear that she felt relieved.
I gave her the book, she thanked me and we go take a walk. She tells me what's been happening and just leans on me the whole way. After that day, I send her a message saying that she has my help if she ever needs it. She tells me to come again the next day and she'll give me "an answer".
I come back and we just sit on a bench somewhere where she lays her head on my lap. I ask her about what she meant with "an answer", she tells me she's tired of talking and that she's gonna take priority on actions, and then she leaves.
Can someone explain to me what's going on?
This girl... I've known her for about a year, she's incredibly intelligent for her age and it makes her slightly asocial.
A few days ago she messaged me after we just drifted apart, she wanted to tell me she was feeling like crap that some people have been fucking with her or whatever (not going into details about that). In the midst of that conversation, she tells me her birthday is coming up.
For whatever madness, I decide to surprise her at her school and bring a book as a birthday gift... I ask for someone to tell her I'm there. She comes running out of the gates and jumps onto me. She's crying and telling me that she missed me. It was clear that she felt relieved.
I gave her the book, she thanked me and we go take a walk. She tells me what's been happening and just leans on me the whole way. After that day, I send her a message saying that she has my help if she ever needs it. She tells me to come again the next day and she'll give me "an answer".
I come back and we just sit on a bench somewhere where she lays her head on my lap. I ask her about what she meant with "an answer", she tells me she's tired of talking and that she's gonna take priority on actions, and then she leaves.
Can someone explain to me what's going on?
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Look at what my best friend did with my picture!
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We all have 24 hours in a day. How we spend these hours is important. Watching a little bit of a video about how sitting affects us made me aware of how much sitting and laying down I do. Gonna have to work on that.Your turn. Tell me another truth.
But again, it's all hard to say for sure.
Her behavior seems appropriate for an immature young girl. To me it seems like something happened to her, she was having a down time and then you showed up and made it all better and she started feeling wonderful.
A mature woman would say : " hey , I really appreciate what you did for me and the birthday present. Let me take you out to dinner tomorrow"
This is how normal people take action. Unfortunately, I don't feel like this girl really knows what's going on and what to do and that's OK.
I m not saying this to be a downer, just be careful falling for her. She has a lot of growing up to do in this department.