So, myself being a repeat offender, 3time loser, 3 divorces, I should remove myself from ever attempting to gain or join into a healthy loving relationship?
His side, her side, the truth, yes I do understand that, but if #s percentiles govern our hearts and thoughts concerning love or relationships, well, that just blows.
Being a member of this human race race, knowing full and well we are social creatures meant for companionship, at least IMO, I choose to look for a partner based on the feelings she and I share, not on our past performance evaluation based on statistics on a chart. Sorry, im babbling on, but damn, they told the Wrights they could never fly.
Daring to spread your wings simply because blank says you will crash and burn.
Baby steps, fools rush in, and time heals, surely there is a glimmer of hope for anyone who wants a meaningful relationship, msybe marriage is taboo, but there has to be hope for more than singular survival,
Doesn't there?

The past is the past and what matters is who the person is now. I haven't been married 3 times but have had 3 serious relationships that haven't been successful- I hope that doesn't make me a right off! I wouldn't want the rest of my life to be judged by my past. A guy at the gym in the summer told me to forget about dating because at my age everyone that is single is f'd up all the good ones are taken. He was my age and just been used by a 20 something and very bitter about the whole dating thing. I was thinking that maybe he shouldn't have gone for a girl half his age and started paying for everything right off the bat, but that's what he chose to do- he had a bad experience but does that make me not worth dating?

Thank you to everyone who has commented about this subject. I can tell that it's an emotional hot-button for many who have been down this tough road. I'm of the mind that we all have issues, problems, etc... that have brought us to the point of divorce, regardless of the number of times. Sometimes we learn what we need to learn after one divorce, but maybe it takes longer for others. So.... what specific questions would you ask someone who has married and divorced more than once if you are considering a relationship with them?

Divorces are just an indicator of the bad choices people make...or the bad course that life takes (and stresses) people within the union.

As time goes along, it's only going to be a fact that...should you decide to date...it's going to have to be with someone who was already in some type of legal relationship.

Personally, I think the marriage institution is on it's way out, eventually.

Time is perhaps the best barometer of the stability of a relationship. Until a relationship passes the test of time, to some extent, then I'd hold back on a legal commitment.

Why muddy the waters with oftentimes fragile ideals, ya know??

Pragmatism may go a long way here.

I personally would not have a problem with dating someone who was married before. Even if they were married more than once i would look at the person and maybe talk to them about what happened in the past but not judge. My mother is on her 3rd marriage. First husband was a alchoholic and she was very young. Second was my father who was physically abusive to my mom and us kids. She married my stepdad 24 years ago and he has been the best. A father to me and a constant support of my mom. We cant always get it right the first time around so people deserve chances..

Very interesting topic, and one dear to my heart.

You see, I am a one-time loser in the game of marriage. My guy is a two-time loser.

However, when these two losers found each other, we became a winning team. We just renewed our marriage vows and were married in the Catholic church after 10 years of marriage.

I learned so much in my previous marriage and later relationships regarding what I wanted (and didn't want) in a marriage; I was much better prepared to enter into a second marriage and ensure it to be a successful one because of my experience.

In addition, please note that after my 11 year marriage to my first husband ended, he remarried. He and his current wife have been successfully married for 13 years. Both of my husbands' previous wives have not remarried, or as far as I know, have been in any long term relationships.

Sometimes, good people marry the wrong person. Sometimes, good people just marry bad people. My ex and I are both relationship material; we just where not right for each other. My husbands' exes just aren't relationship material - IMratherHO.

I was married twice. First time I was 18 and my husband basically became controlling and even abusive after we were married. I had no other choice but to divorce home after a short marriage, but we were together for almost 4 years.
My second marriage lasted 10 years and on my anniversary I found out he was gay and has been having affairs for the last year and a half.
There is no way to fix and abuser or a gay man, no matter how much one can work on it.
I am not ashamed by my divorces - it is life and life goes on.
I m going to be Married again this year and I hope this is for life.

I do not foresee myself ever taking vows again, as previously posted, the paperwork is meaningless to so many in this day and age, however, I do believe myself to be a viable candidate for a long lasting healthy strong relationship.

With that being said, the OP asked if there were certain questions one should ask in regards to dating a less than fortunate divorcee.

Certainly i would not have a questionnaire in hand, though that does seem to be where things are headed, my concerns would be stability both physical and mental and to a lesser point financial, children...have,want or no way. Loyalty, concerning why and or how the past relationships dissolved.
To bluntly ask a potential partner if they cheated and dumped or were cheated on and dumped, would possibly ruin the moment, but if the subject is approached in a tactful manner, many things can be cleared up at the beginning.
So many variables come into play, time together helps sort those things out. JMO