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Confusion.

ShineBright86
ShineBright86

So I have no clue why but EVERY relationship I am in... almost anyway... I tend to think that person is 'the one'...i take things fast... I am super sure about our future one minute and the next, second thoughts.



It's only been a couple months and since say one (silly I know).. I felt he was Mr right. Like with no doubt. Now I am questioning it. Why does my mind do this?? :( anyone relate?

11Christmases
11Christmases
It's your hormones. Probably oxytocin.
rmb
rmb
That and possibly the feeling of hope. I think as long as you are able to discern at some point whether the person is the one or not, that’s key.
koolman
koolman
Your mind is hyper, hooked on excitement, avoids what it would call boredom. The reality of any situation, anything done in repetition, even sex, is after awhile, it gets boring. Then a relationship becomes cultivating a gentle friendship while shaking each other up every now and then, hopefully not with drama like fighting, but new experiences, places to go, new FRIENDS to meet.
user1064
user1064
Hey, sounds to me like you already know the answer! I saw you mentioned that you took things too fast, I think it's pretty normal to question yourself when you rush into something.( It might feel unsafe when you don't have as much time to think through the relationship )
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