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Confused about my relationship and what it means

Use2love
Use2love

Hello to all I am new here not sure how to go about this matter but I'll do my best, I've been dating my boyfriend for over 6 years, we have a daughter together,. eventually we got engaged and things were the best it's ever been, up until recently where he blocked me off of Facebook and added his ex and her daughter, he knows we don't get along I've been getting harassed on Facebook by her and her 10year old daughter, he has been posting really romantic things all these things I was able to see prior to being blocked, he says it's nothing what do you ladies and gentlemen make of this? My heart is deeply saddened by this, I refuse to give up without a fight we are currently together but this has my anxiety levels and depression at its highest

Lenoire
Lenoire
I'm sorry to read of your situation. What do you think is going on? Why is he in touch with his ex if they don't have a child together? Blocking you would be a deal-breaker for me, so I'd be getting to the bottom of this, and pronto. Without giving much details as to how this has come to be, I can't comment beyond this.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
This sounds like a lot off dramatic game playing to me
There are,children in the middle of this
I wouldn't tolerate it
I think we tell other people by how we treat ourselves how to treat us
FB?.....I would walk away .
He needs to,grow up and not involve children in this crap
Big hug and a blessing ...I hope at some point he'll want to put his children before himself...xo
Use2love
Use2love
I have a feeling that she is trying to get in the way of what she saw prior to all of this a happy family, I'm very torn to be honest, thank you ladies for your responses it's a very trying time, to know there is someone out there to hear you out and give advice is great
Lenoire
Lenoire
What went on for him to block you and what went on for him to start having conversations with her again. Normally a devoted partner can tell when a former gf is trying to come between him and his happy partnership. If you can break it down to what led to all of this, it can help you figure out what steps to take to help resolve it.
Use2love
Use2love
We did get into an argument that led to a brief break up, due to the fact of him not considering my feelings and lying about small things, he said he would remove her but that hasn't occurred we've been back together and things are still the same it has me stressed to the point where the more I know the more this makes me psychically sick
lostsoul72
lostsoul72
Your man is playing a game with you. I am sorry to say this , but you deserve better and if you don't step up and demand it he will take all he can get from you and play with anyone he wants to. This has got to be sending up red flags with trust issues and rightfully so. :(

I wish you luck and big hugs!
rmb
rmb
Totally childish crap on his part. You've been together this long and have a child together, and he's playing games on FB? Ugh, just pathetic. I would not be able to tolerate this, at all.
Lenoire
Lenoire
Lying is also a deal-breaker for me, and those who lie about small things are the worst liars. I'd put your P.I. pants on and do some digging because chances are you'll catch him in more lies.
jennifera
jennifera
Don't allow people to treat you poorly. You are an example to your daughter.
BellaRose
BellaRose
What is w guys and blocking their gf? My ex played these games w me.....total BS but you want so badly for things to work out. I understand that. Imagine your sister/ best friend/daughter was in your shoes ..... what advice would you give her? There is your answer.
Aronia
Aronia
You are basically married, legally or not. I ve put up with a lot of crap from my fiancé and now that I left him, I actually can't believe I sat there and tried to work through it. It seems like you are doing the same.. I understand why, but really this behavior shows complete disregard for your relationship.
If I knew that I could easily overcome all the difficulties of break up with kids involved, I would have done it sooner.
Maybe there needs to be a trial separation here because he is out of control.
I am sorry..: i hope things will change for the best for you.
rmb
rmb
How people use FB with respect to their relationships is something I will never understand.
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