Id get a self help book on self esteem- or maybe see a counsler. You have to remember- he may be smart. But im sure you have really good qualities of you own. I know how it can be fighting with someone whos soo smart. My brother is becoming a lawyer and i make $9 an hour- so its deffinatly puts a little dent in my self esteem when i do fight with him. But, i try to remember that i have a bigger heart, i care about people more, im sweeter. And id rather be known as sweet, than smart. Id let your hubby know how you feel, and hopefully he will do something to change to make you more comfortable. Good luck!

If he's putting you down or making you feel bad about yourself and doing it with full knowledge that's what he's doing then it's emotional abuse, doesn't matter what "classy" words he chooses to use to make that happen. Abuse is abuse.

I agree with the other poster read up on self esteem, ways to deal with others and couseling even. Only YOU control how his words make you feel. And only YOU should control how you feel about yourself regardless of what others say.

So he's got a "superiority complex"...how's the sex? I'm sure he ain't ALL that...

Thank you all, to answer you Koolman when we were most emotionally connected yes the sex was more romantic/emotional and mentally exalting ...

I thought I would attach poem that I have created- to this post on some of the things he has said to me that past 5 years.


I've always just been a gentleman I walked you home
Married you when you were pregnant and I get this in return?
Don't fret it's just a ring
I once felt it would make me feel better to have it on, a symbol of our love

A part of me has died, we were happier as friends
You never listen
Things have changed
Dont fret it's just a ring

I once felt that I would be just looking for you again
not any more
You could never understand I have lots of love
You never listen
You will be the death of me
You could never understand I love my friends
We were happier as friends

Ive always tried to be a good gentleman,
I don't think you know what this does
Ive lost my resolve
A part of me has died, I'm spent

Some say you don't want me happy
You could never understand
You used your tears against me
Made me feel obsolete
Nothing I say is good enough
Things have changed
I'm spent

now that this is out of my system I can let it go and forget about it thank you

Forget It's hun. That doesn't bring happiness. Communication, patience, true love, God in my life, understanding of fellow mam and many more attributes bring joy, peace and happiness. His disease gas little to do with his intellect or else he'd gave it all under control, correct? Most ppl with high It's suffer from several or some type of debilitating mental disorder. I've seen students with the highest of its make the lowest grades. Much like a student with chronic ADD /ADDHD. Any disorder can show its ugly face any time in a lifespan. My Daughter comes from a household if high It's YES, But we each suffered from some form of mental illness. Depression, anxiety, personality behavioral conflicts. Add /ADDHD and my wife's family had degrees of FUNCTIONAL Bipolar disorders. We've seen it all. It just recently took my Daughter 3 attempts to pass her NAPLEX exams to acquire her PHARM D License So, we've seen tens of thousands of dollars out of pocket which in the interim she had to stop and we paid to support her attending a Rehabilitation program (inhouse) b4 she could continue her studies.
Intelligence? Try studying 10,000 questions ans living and working and attending a rehab so social disorders and then after all that completing the exam with a 99.1 score. There's no explanation for it other than sheer desire. God blesd

This post is 8 years old so I'll close it....xo