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coffee shop blues

BookThirteen
BookThirteen

so I’m sat in a coffee shop unable to go home this morning after my 4th nightshift in a row with very little sleep during the days in between. On my way home I was talking on the phone to my BF and we had a huge argument.he has people round but all I want to do is have a bath and go to sleep. I said he was selfish (I won’t be able to sleep with them all playing games and making noise. Plus o would feel uncomfortable trying to get to sleep when there’s a house full of his friends). He said I was unreasonable for expecting him to sit around by himself all day. Now I’m in costa desperately trying to say awake and not to cry. All I want to do is go back to the house and go to bed but I feel like I can’t and he doesn’t even care. This is the closest to suicidal I’ve been in a very long time. 

brighteyed8
brighteyed8
Wow, I can understand your frustration! Do these types of arguments happen often? Nothing is worth taking your life over! Please reach out for help if you feel suicidal. I know you said you're exhausted and you just need to get some rest.... do you have any relatives or friends you could reach out to to see if you can stay with them for a night? Maybe find a cheap hotel nearby if you can spare the extra change? I'm just trying to brainstorm... I think once his friends leave and you get some rest, you should try to have a sit down talk with him and explain to him that you weren't trying to be selfish--you were just exhausted. Sometimes it's good to cry and get it all out, but don't let this get the best of you. If you can find somewhere to stay tonight, or at least try to go home and get some rest, do so. I would really have a serious talk with him and just let him know where you were coming from and maybe you can work together to find a solution, like have his friends leave before you get home or shortly after, or ask them to quiet down, maybe they could hangout at one of their houses on nights you have to work. I'm sorry you're feeling this way! Just hang in there, and try to get some rest.
Aronia
Aronia
What the f. This is not normal. People are not suppose to treat you this way.
You need to go home and sleep.
You are so sleep deprived, you can’t even make rational decisions right now.
Please take care of you.
refurb
refurb
the previous posts are 100%

you matter
the person you are with doesn't treat you that way
the $ you make matters to him
You are worth so much more, take care of yourself
jojored
jojored
Stop by Best Buy, get some noise cancelling headphones, go home and go to sleep. No more caffeine! When you've rested, tell him he's a selfish idiot and start setting some boundaries with him. If he can't grow up, time for you to dump his sorry immature ass.
rmb
rmb
Ok so what you are doing is a little passive-aggressive. No one is preventing you from going home. This is an over dramatic response.

Like Jojored said, get some ear plugs, just go home, try to get some rest and then start taking control of your situation. It’s evident from your other posts your boyfriend is super immature. No one is making you stay with him. You just have to put your big girl panties on and deal with him in a mature way. Do it when you are rested, when you are prepared and just stop putting up with bullshit.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I found working nights really difficult.... It was hard to sleep in the day without any noise for me

I think he's being a selfish jerk and I tell him so

I agree with what others have written try your best with some type of earplugs to get some rest today and have a serious discussion with him

This isn't reasonable at all
CaroliziesMamma
CaroliziesMamma
Some resources from http://www.loveisrespect.org/ might be helpful for you. Browse their website. You are important.
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