Hi Krissy,
I read your previous post and this one.I don't think anything has changed, or that he wants to. He is using this apologetic behavior to control you. I would not trust it. You need to put your child (and yourself) in a situation where you are not treated this way. Read "the verbally abusive relationship" by Patricia Evans and this will bring to light some of what is going on in your relationship. Another good one is "in sheep's clothing" George Simon PhD. About manipulators. They explain it so much better than I can, but this is in no way a healthy relationship. He threatens to make you leave to one up you, He knows you are dependent on him and are afraid to be on your own. This is a terribly mean game he is playing with you and his daughter and is ALL about control. I know as I have been exactly there, married almost 16 years to someone like this and actually married someone with these issues again (not as verbally abusive) but with narcissist tendencies for the last 7 years. You seem young and that you have a lot of life to live. Do not let fear keep you in this. This type if person rarely changes. Impossible without them admitting there is an issue and professional help. This behavior just gets worse over time. He will make it miserable for you and your daughter and make you feel like it's all your fault. Good luck with all this and prayers for peace.

I was with a narcissist for 6 years. Everything is faked in order to gain what they want from you.

Thank you so much to both your response. I just can't believe how anyone can be so kind! He is so loving and accepting and most of all great compliments towards me, I just have problems to understand how this can be fake! I have never seen him this way, human knowing he can make mistakes too... Than again I was never distant from him but lately.... It hurts to think about it! If only this was true, it would have been a wonderful relationship!

If he legitimately changed he'd be on his knees begging you for forgiveness and telling point by point his plan for how he's going to turn things around and make things right. No one, even people who aren't narcissists, just magically change. Most people are capable, if they try real hard, to be nice to someone once in a while. But when someone is a jack ass by nature, you find that they can't maintain that level of decency for very long.

I think it's cyclical. He'll change for awhile, then, when he's got what he wants, revert to his old ways. At the core, people don't really change that much. But it sounds like he's making great strides, stretching toward being a mature adult, by admitting that sometimes he can be a real asshole. Good for him.

And yes, narcissists can apologize, even be genuinely remorseful. Whether they permanently change their behavior, that is the question.

I left my fiancé last April and now have been with a man who is normal. Actually, beyond normal when it comes to empathy...
Until you experience this kind of care, you can not even fathom the cruelty of a narcissist.
When my current BF does something that is upsetting to me or sees me in a bad state, he is CRUSHED. He expresses empathy in such ways that he literally does everything he can not to cause any problems because of how painful it is for him to experience guilt and shame from causing pain to another human being.
A narcissist/sociopath realizes what they SHOULD be feeling, but they are actually not feeling it , this is why they continue to lie and cheat.
If an empath cheats ( it does happen sometimes ) , this person will lose weight, lose sleep, they go into deep depression, they constantly beg for forgiveness and will stop at nothing to prove to their partner how sorry they are. Usually it is not reparable because of all the emotions involved and even then this person will still carry feelings of guilt and shame for years. They will grieve and wait quite a while to have another relationship.
The narcissist will move on rather quickly.
If you suspect that your man is a narcissist, it is very unlikely that he will change and they are so good at faking emotions because they need to fit into the normal world.
Accept the apology, but start keeping tabs on actions and not words . You will see that the actions and the words do not match.
I am so sorry.

Really good post, Aronia.

The thing about narcissist is that they know what you want to hear and as someone mentioned they get over things quickly. The apology may seem geniune but its all set up to look authetic and not false. I had friend who had a guy cheat on her, lie and dissappear on her young son and her and stopped talking to her for a year and she has gotten back with him since he inched his way in.