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*I've cross posted on the healthy sex group too*
Hi,
So I've been with my BF almost 6 months. I'm 27, he's 24. We have not had sex. I contracted HSV 1 from a former partner, he has a 3-5 in 100 chance of getting it. Says hes ok with it, I'm on medicine, he says he'll use condoms.
He was in the military, has PTSD. he finds that "regressing" helps him cope. So he wears diapers and likes to be treated like a child. At first he told me he just wore them to sleep, he has vivid dreams and sometimes has accidents. I was fine with that. Now I'm seeing how much he loves this. He talks about diapers with me constantly, acts like a kid when we're alone together, throws stuff around (not at me, just like a kid would throw toys), uses a pacifier. We've tried having sex and he wants the diaper to be involved. He has to be wearing it, I take it off him, then he wants me to finger his butthole, and "humiliate" him, whatever that means.
My question is, is it ok for me to set limits on this behavior? For example when we hang out at my house, he has to act "normal" for an hour, then for an hour he can act like a kid? I wanted a boyfriend not a baby! He gets upset that I say I don't find him attractive in the diapers. I hate babies, hate everything about diapers, also I'm a germaphobe and I hate body fluids. Is it ok for me to set boundaries? When we're around other friends he is very cocky, confident, etc person. But then my "alone time" with him is spent with me telling him not to put the TV remote in his diaper because he thinks it's cute!!! I feel like I'm not getting a fair deal. Please help.
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
I don't think your dislike of babies is even relavant. I think this is just a complete turn off in every way for and you don't like it. You should not feel guilty about that. I think you have to seriously consider if this is the right person for you. He needs to consider that too because he clearly is into this and so he should be with someone who is comfortable with it too.
You are far kinder and patient than I would be, that's for sure.
The diaper thing - I don't think it has anything to do with PTSD from military. He has a fetish for diapers. He needs a partner who would be into that kind of thing.
If you are not, this is not going to work.
I would not be able to handle it.
My BF has some kinks that I am struggling with and they are not nearly as extreme as this..
When you love someone , things can be worked out, but it is probably a deal breaker for you.
I would probably break it off.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paraphilic_infantilism
I first heard of about the adult diaper thing about 4-5 years ago when I happened upon an episode of Taboo on the National Geographic Channel. It was certainly eye-opening.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWAjAz3tpF0
Not sure i could handle that.