First off to those who replied to my posts even though it was long ago I thank you for the ones that were helpful... my compassion goes out to those who have suffered with this covid epidemic and who have suffered the loss of loved ones...

I basically posted about setting the ground work for a good atmosphere to deal with problems of my own.. 

this was mostly about being agressed and watching the whole family become agressed upon by my younger sister who moved back home...upon by an abusive family member.. verbaly, emotionally, phychologically and although this is family and family sometimes is not fair... some of this stuff takes the cake... and sets me off which is not good... I have tried to avoid her when she is being agressive yet one never knows what she is going to make an issue out of... its usually my father who she can stand to be in the same room with...

Its not like I am keeping record but she makes a point out of creating such a negative vibe and emotionally intrusive memory of things she wishes to have control over or have others be considerate of her which I think is more or less "fear her over"

This stuff has grown to what I think can be identified as elder abuse...

During the height of the Covid epidemic when the leathal strain of covid was being spread around... she was exposed at the office she works at... she contracted covid and agreed to stay in her room and order food... She used the same bathrooom as my elderly parents did... and one day due to some petty issue she got into an uproar about something my father did so she went in to my mothers bedroom and stayed in the screaming at my mother (with a cheap mask on)... being she has the nature of not being able to be considerate of circumstances and goes into a rage easily and excuses it as a fast fight to flight response....( believe me I'd like to see here take a flight and get out of here because she is sometimes too much to put up with) so personaly feelings aside ( as usual)  she could have exposed my mother to covid... I had to take both my father and mother to a testing site to get them tested... finally when the vaccine came out and they were eligable I took them for their first and also their second dose...

so gross neglect for the safetry of my elder parents along with harrasement for that occassion...

She also LOCKS the upstairs bathroom door in the moring especially when she stays home from work and then she goes back to her bedroom to la de da... do what ever so that when ever she decides to come out and use the upstairs bathroom ( to wash her cat dishes in for her 2 cats that she sleeps with) or do what ever... In the mean time my 89 year old mother and my 93 year old father have to go use the 1/2 bathroom that is down the stairs... first thing in the morning when they have just gotten out of bed...If my father even knocks on the door when she is in there she replies and says something in a nasty tone of voice... if she is not in there then the door is locked she has it reserved for herself and you knock but dont hear anything and have to go downstairs...

one day I forgot that she was in the shower upstairs and went downstairs to use the toilet.. and she started her stomping and yelling routine becuase which finally ended with her slaming the door and saying something mean as she went on her way to work for that day.. you see if you turn any single fuacest or put the luandry on the shower will either go cold or hot.... and believe me she lavishes herself in there sometimes using almost all of the hot water.. Usually when I am taking a shower if I sense that the water pressure drops I just step to the side and wait or re adjusts the handles....

I deal enough with my elderly father who has the tendecy to display a mean disposition.. him being older his filter has diminished and sometimes you see it more for some of the slightest inconvieninces...

she also started verbally abusive situation at like 9:30 at night about handling my parents money becuase my older sister helped them to pay the taxes and had to be reimbursed.. so I broke it to her politely that dad was worried so my older sister helped him now she needs to be zelled the money... she was furious... instead of grateful...

I have thought of putting up hidden security cameras and voice activated recorrding devices outside the bathroom, in the kitchen, anywhere this abuse occurs... I am truly tired of it... avoiding her it has not helped...

she even says things out loud that she thinks are "good ideas" like "its to bad I cant get mom to sell the house to me for a dollar." so a nursing home cant take it.. A house that I moved back to  after setbacks and injury and illness to try to make a nice place to and to help my parets and to hopefully heal, recover, and grow...as I kept trying to set things in order and it has been a hard job just maintaining the place... She doesn't pay rent here its not her condo..she barely takes care of my parents untill I had to tell her she has got to food shop for them, she currently signed my father up for physical therapy which takes 1 hour once or twice a week  while she uses that day  takes off work and works from home in order to avoid going in to work... other than that she is yelling at him as soon as she comes back to the home environment... as soon as he got back from physical therapy one day he stopped at the door to meet my mother and decided to hand her his hat and sunglasses... she seemed as if she could not wait behind him grew impatient and slammed the kitcen door so hard that the walls shook and windows rattled... I was standing by the kitchen sink when this happened.. the woman has just got no patience for the eldery... if she is getting something she wants out of it thats one thing... but being witness to a free place for her to stay while she is so abusive toward my parents sets off my ptsd and I become regretful and remorseful of other times where i suffered and have take losses of abuse at the hands and will and whim of other people.. and it leaves me in bad state... or makes me want to rush and I take dangerous chances and make rash decisions trying to speed that along so I could to get my act together even more so so I dont get stuck here with here after my parents pass..

If I do get any of these episodes on video and audio I will consider getting a lawyer and filing a police report...

I am so tired of this... and hopefully that video will not be a video of either of my parents who fell down the stairs becuase she locked the bathroom to reserve it for herself....

Thank God my parents made it through covid...I am glad they are still around...