What are avoidant tendencies?

Sure.

Yes

I don't know. When I hear somebody say a man has "avoidant tendencies" I usually translate that to mean... "He isn't doing what I want him to do"

In other words. It's human nature to label the other person the one with the problem. Darn it, if people would just do and be who we want them to be! lol

What is he avoiding?

Emotionally avoidant? Avoidant of you, SocalStar? Poor eye contact? Not down for what you want to talk about?

not enough details here to say for sure.

I'd say, in general, it IS possible for a person to change a negative habit/tendency if:
1) THEY want to (not if someone else wants it for them or tries to force them)
2) they put in the work (usually some sort of counseling, behavior change, restructuring of routine or something, that sort of thing)
3) it becomes part of their lifestyle

But change is hard, and in general, people who don't truly want to change and/or aren't committed to doing anything differently won't really change.

But I'd have to first question, as others said, what do you mean by "avoidant tendencies?" He might just have a different point of view from you, and it might not really be something he needs to change, could just be a difference of opinions, maybe a "agree to disagree" or "go our separate ways" sort of thing?

Sounds like you're talking about Attachment methods.

The answer is yes, slowly, as they grow and learn. However, there are secure partners available. The universe is abundant someone told me.

If you are Anxious, run for your life, I was stuck in an anxious avoidant trap for 15 years.

Yes, I am talking about Attachment styles. I am secure, my BF is more toward avoidant. Avoidant is when someone creates barriers or sabotages the relationship to avoid closeness. My BF has been in therapy (and I have too) and I see improvement, but it can be frustrating at times. I don't doubt his love, but it can feel hurtful at times.

ShastaSue - it's not about labeling, it's about compatibility, self-awareness and having a healthy relationship. I would never try to make someone be something they are not.

oh ok. So he agrees he has an avoidant personality?

If HE has acknowledged it and believes he has a problem and wants to change, I think it's possible.

While I was going through an abusive relationship in college I learned that my attachment style was "anxious-preoccupied" (the result of abuse while growing up).

I tried to find help/answers and found articles saying that unhealthy attachment styles are fixable with plenty of therapy, a genuine desire to change and with support.

Who initiated the first date? Just curious.

How did you two meet? Did something happen in the relationship I wonder?

I tend to agree with Shasta Sue, too often people want to blame others...
I noticed in myself, I tended to meet and get involved in destructive involvements, 1 involvement I could blame someone else, but multiples meant I had to look for what was in me...

If two people have issues, yet are working towards a goal, you are lucky...