Well, it takes me probably a couple months to really open up to ANYONE. That answer your question?

As far as expressing amorous feelings, though, only took me 3 dates to really feel sufficiently relaxed with her, and a feeling that SHE wasn't going to freak out and run for the nearest exit if I touched her (she liked it; she was like a dying plant in need of a little water...adores the neck rubs, back rubs and caresses of her hair). Once I got the sense that SHE needed to be touched, didn't flinch, and liked it, gave me the courage to really relax and enjoy her.

In other words, 3 dates to not feel like a rapist and not fear being rejected, because she didn't reject me.

I know that I am not a guy, but I thought I'd tell you how long it took my guy to reveal his feelings for me.... 3+ years! I'm not sure if he has really opened up, as the first time he said "I love you" it came with "for this", the second time it was "I love you...in my way" the last time it was a quiet "I love you" whispered in my ear when he was hugging me good bye. He has trusted me 100% for a very long time, always said he feels close to me and things like that, but never before wanted to admit feelings of love. I am guessing it has a lot to do with a person's past, if they have been hurt, and how they have been hurt. I very quietly told him I loved him two years ago after he fell off a roof- he was heavily medicated at the time lol. It's not just about the feelings we have, it's about what is happening inside ourselves and how willing we are to risk putting those feelings out there.

I finally told her I loved her after 3 years. She didn't say it back. Pretty much felt crushed and then blase about her after that point. Ugh.

I think I am a slow mover at this point in my life, but I am still on the mend from a difficult and damaging marriage.
I likely take months to really open up to a woman. It would depend on what she did to help put me at ease. If I knew she could listen without judgement, I would open up faster.

As far as admitting I had feeling for her... yeah, pretty much the same timeline there too. Guess I'm a slow mover.

I'm not a guy, but can tell you that I would be very wary of a man who revealed his feelings for me before he had had time to get to know me. I would put this around the 2 - 3 month mark, if not longer. Any L word before that, IMO, I would define as lust.

I've gotten the L word waaay too many times, waaay too early.

I just sit there and think "you've gotta be kidding me!!"

ok you asked for it, after what i have been through in the last 3 years i will never profess my love for any women ever again. having my kids mother kill herself and then getting rejected by every women on the planet after that, why would i want to?

Thank you for sharing your personal stories.

I am not a man, but I dated a man just recently for a year. He would NOT open up to me.
I even told him I loved him on several occasions and he would just say "aaaawwww".
Well once we reached the year point I got tired of it. Tried talking to him about it and never got a direct answer.
So I broke up with him.
IMO if you don't know by the 1 year mark, well then you probably don't love the person and it's time to move on.

Sometimes not easy to open up but for me I start to at around 2 month mark but if someone turns into a pushy person trying to all the time push and get you to open up then I kinda close down~!

My only additional thought is it takes time for true "feelings" to develop.

Oftentimes, we're blinded by our own infatuation, and we don't REALLY love THE OTHER PERSON, we just love how WE are feeling at the time. Seeing them in their true colors, and still being fond of them, warts and all, takes me a few months.

I wonder fi we ever know anyone ever after 20 years I got a surprise

for me it's straight away.. if i'm in, i'm in 100%

It's a great way to get burned though as i've found out recently.

Well I have a lot of baggage..so for me it would take a few years. Then I know that person isnt going to abandon me, and i can fully trust her.