^^^ RMB, exactly! Well stated...

RARE watching...a few times a year...I'd be okay with. Weekly...no way.

But it's more than that...it's the attitude towards sex. Is it nearly a right? Do they act offended if it doesn't happen?

Or is sex an act of caring?

If one partner is tired, sick, or says no for whatever reason....what's the reaction? If it's to turn to porn...the relationship is dead. If a no, is a prompt to put more energy into the relationship...whether that's time, taking on a greater load of the chores, learning more about what will turn their partner on, etc...then the relationship is alive.

It's really not that complicated. If it's bringing both partners together (without anyone being talked into it)...then it's good. If anyone feels pressured...it's bad. If someone can't see that they're pressuring their partner....they're a sh#t and it's bad. And it's time to leave.

It would depend on what they were watching and why. If they are watching out of curiosity it might be a good time to talk about what they are curious about and/or why this program is filling a need for them. If it is something you are uncomfortable about, tell them outright you don't like what they are watching. It may be something they will continue to watch, just not in your presence at which point, if your feelings are strong enough, may be a time to re-evaluate the relationship.

You have answers across the board, from "why not?" to "hell no!". Have you posted the question in the "healthy sex" group? I think that the only right answer is the one that you and your partner agree on.

I used to think, within reason, it was okay for adults. That was before I found out my husband was a sex addict. As he has worked through his recovery, and we have come to know so many families devastated by porn, now I would not have a place for it. There is a pretty interesting site with some data, science and info you may want to check out: fightthenewdrug dot org. The science of the impact of porn is pretty compelling.