I really hate this for the kids that Im sure by now are used to her coming around But Im with you two If there is nothing to hide why hide it (the name of the friend) also if MRSA is a staph infection it sounds like the one my son had and he was hospitalized but no rehab rehab for what?

Apparently they wanted him to get the antibiotics for a month - my husband called the rehab and he's there...

So I'm wondering who this "friend" is who drove 45 miles round trip just to take her home again. If it was LoverBoy's best friend she would have invited him in -- after all, he'd be the best man, no? But she was all secretive about who he was. We didn't even see him..

Something is afoot!

I still can't get over "walking into a door." LOLOLOL!

Ahh, isn`t Pinky in recovery? That is suppose to be all about honesty.
Sure doesn`t sound good from here....

My husband is so suspicious. He asked her if Lover Boy knew that this "friend" was driving her home, and she said no. Something's off, I just know it.

Lover Boy has been in the hospital since New Year's, which means Pinky is home alone all day -- something she can't deal with. She hasn't been calling the kids every evening the way she used to, either. Just a few times each week. I suppose if she's using again she's at the stage where she doesn't need it every day yet. But if she is using she'll be at that stage in no time at all.

I hope she remembers that she will never see the kids again if we find out that she is using.

Another scary thing is that drug addicts who go for long periods of sobriety and then go back to drugs are very vulnerable to overdosing. It would be such a sad thing to EVER have to tell any of our grandchildren that their bio is dead; regardless of how we feel about it being their own choice/fault/decision; etc. I pray I never have to explain something like that to my GS. Also, my son has had 4 staph infections. One landed him in the hospital for a month. I've never heard of "rehab" for a MRSA infection either. I wonder if you're getting the whole story. One time my son came home with a PIC line for a couple of weeks. The other times, they sent him home on oral antibiotics. Once they realized he was a drug addict, I think sending him home with a PIC line became a liability because drug addicts will shoot dope straight into that PIC line which could be very deadly, thereby leaving the hospital open to liability issues. At any rate, by what you've said, I agree. Something is definitely up with her. Time will tell. It always does.

Oh, by the way, I guess part of my son's hospitalization for that month was "rehab" because the infection had settled in his back (common for people who use drugs intravenously) and he didn't walk for a couple of weeks, so they had to give him PT to help him start walking again........so maybe "Lover Boy" has something like that going on??

We're pretty sure Lover Boy isn't a user. He's African American, and insists on shaving every day. From what we've heard an ingrown hair (common with black men) got infected and went into a blood infection that almost shut down his kidneys. Pinky says the MRSA part happened while he was in the hospital for the blood infection.

The problem with Lover Boy is that we don't know him any better now than we did more than a year ago. He seems VERY private. He'll answer a question, but doesn't usually go beyond that.

We don't think the relationship will last, so we're trying to keep the kids from seeing too much of him until they either you-know-what or get off the pot.

That happens to my son too. His 1st staph infection & 4th were from ongrown hairs on his face.
Sounds like the safest plan to me. Id keep the contact limited too.

Ingrown...........where's that edit button!!

Ingrown hair, or ... . I don't know. My D was at the hospital recently with a "bad infection". I'm pretty sure the State isn't following through on random UA's. I wish they'd do their job.

Any time my daughter referred to friends who remained nameless I knew that she was up to something. In her case it was usually drugs or she was cheating on her current boyfriend. It got so just hearing the word "friend" made me sick. In her case, usually these friends meant more to her than her kids. My daughter is still doing good. She has been out of prison since June. No nameless friends yet. She lives here with me and one of her daughters. She has a boyfriend that I actually like. I hope Pinky is not using again. The kids have gotten used to her, but the nameless friend does not bode well in my estimation.

If her boyfriend is in hospital maybe, this "friend" is a friend with benefits. She might not be using again just using this guy. Is she on methedone ?

Pinky's on Seboxone (sp?) and "nerve pills" - I can't remember the name of them. I know the friend can't be her sponsor because that's a woman. So this "friend" can't be good news. Lover Boy only has two close friends, and Pinky would have introduced me to them if the "friend" was one of them.

Pinky has told me many times that she doesn't have any friends. She says that's on purpose because she doesn't want to fall back into drugs. Therefore, the only people she would know other than Lover Boy's friends are druggies.

And a black eye from running into a door? Puhleeeeze! An open kitchen cabinet door in the dark, maybe. But I've almost walked into an open bedroom door once or twice and I know it would've been a bloody nose -- not a black eye.

Sounds like bad news to me too. My daughter has problems with being alone, that's one of the reasons her moving home never worked. She'd last a few days or weeks and then she'd be gone cause she hasn't figured out yet that being with a man does not mean she will be happy.

I wonder if maybe Pinky is having an issue with just being lonely or if this is a new "friend" that may be a threat to her continued sobriety. I agree that a black eye from "running in to a door" is just a bit too hard to believe.

These girls all seem to have the same profile.
They can`t be alone.. Have these nameless friends. When will they
ever grow up and become women? My daughter will be 37 years old soon
and she still acts like a young teenager. You know what they say, you
stay as young as you are when you start using drugs (emotionally) that is. You just stunt your emotional growth as you continue to mature age wise. Its disturbing when the 8 yr old seems more mature than the 37 yr old in many ways. uh..