Questions for parents of gay children...
Hi, everyone. I'm hoping to get some answers and support from other parents of gay children, especially those who have lived with this for a while, since it's new to me. I am a liberal person who has always supported gay rights, but have surprisingly been having a hard time since realizing that my daughter (my only child) is gay. Of course I will always love and support her, but is it normal that I feel disappointed? And then of course I feel guilty for feeling disappointed. I used to get so excited about boyfriend prospects for her, etc. I can accept, but why can't I get excited for her? I am uncomfortable and try not to show it but she probably feels it (again creating guilt.) It is hard to give up plans and dreams for your children: dating, weddings, grandchildren, etc. (I do realize these things can still happen, but it's hard not to wish for the traditional way.) It's obviously her life and she is who she is and I know I have to accept this. Why is it so hard? I'm so surprised at this, since I'm so liberal. But honestly, I actually prayed that she wouldn't be gay. How dumb. I knew it all along. It just felt better to live in a dream world for a while. Are there any other parents out there who have resolved this? Have any of you gone from feeling disappointed and uncomfortable to actually embracing this and getting excited for your children's relationships, etc.? Right now, I just feel like I'll have to fake it forever. But this is sad. I truly hope I'll be able to embrace it and get excited for her relationships instead of uncomfortable. Hoping to hear from some parents who have succeeded in this. Thanks so much for reading and/or responding! Love to everyone.
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