Gastric Bypass Surgery Support Group

Gastric bypass (GBP) is any of a group of similar operative procedures used to treat morbid obesity, a condition which arises from severe accumulation of excess weight in the form of fatty tissue, and the health problems ("co-morbidities") which result. If you are considering gastric bypass or have had it, join the community where we share our experiences and find support.

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"You don't need that surgery...."

Picklelilly
Picklelilly
Is what I have heard from two people. The people that know I am going thru this process are my husband and adult children, my sister, a close friend and two co-workers. A friend and a co-worker both said "you don't need surgery." Is it that they are used to me being fat? I am 5' 4" tall and weigh 238ish. My BMI at first appointment was 41.5. I wear a size 18-20. I have been told that I don't "look" like I weigh as much as I do. I have not lost substantial weight in years and continue to gain about 10 lbs each year. My father and brother are diabetic. Am I nuts? Or is ev eryone else? Kathy
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have been told the same thing over and over again, in fact I am very comfortable with my weight and body. I am 5'5 250lb I have always fluctuated between 240-250 and I am a type 2 diabetic. When going to the surgery consult I was in a room and class with several other people wanting the surgery and I was the smallest one in there. They kept asking me why I wanted to to do this and the truth is I am sick of shots and numerous medications, I have PCOS which prevents me from getting pregnant, in the last year I was diagnosed with sleep apnea. I know that I will be trading out the medications for supplements but that should be ok. I am actually sad about losing the weight which is weird lol, I love my curves and size but I guess there are so many other opportunities that could be there for a skinnier me!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have been told the same thing over and over again, in fact I am very comfortable with my weight and body. I am 5'5 250lb I have always fluctuated between 240-250 and I am a type 2 diabetic. When going to the surgery consult I was in a room and class with several other people wanting the surgery and I was the smallest one in there. They kept asking me why I wanted to to do this and the truth is I am sick of shots and numerous medications, I have PCOS which prevents me from getting pregnant, in the last year I was diagnosed with sleep apnea. I know that I will be trading out the medications for supplements but that should be ok. I am actually sad about losing the weight which is weird lol, I love my curves and size but I guess there are so many other opportunities that could be there for a skinnier me!
amethyst223
amethyst223
I didn't hide it, I didn't yell it from the roof tops either. I told my supervisor and a few close co-workers. If others asked, I was honest but I let it be known this was my choice, my decision and I wasn't interested in anyone's input. I only had one person make a negative comment "Why would you put yourself though that when you're such a confident person now?" I promptly let her know since I was so confident I knew this was the choice for me. I researched it, worked very hard for over a year to get qualified and I trusted my surgeon. Do what you need in order to be heathly and I'll leave you with one of my favorite quote from Dr. Seuss ... "those that mind, don't matter and those that matter, don't mind". Best of luck!
Lcat4
Lcat4
It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Only what you think. You have to decide who you are doing this for.
deleted_user
deleted_user
No matter what your weight is now - there will always be people who disagree with your decision to have the surgery. They don't know your body and what you been thru or your family history. Just ignore their critisism. I was extremely over weight (just shy of 600) and I still got that type of response and even to this day there are family members who refuse to include me in their lives because of my decision.

But look at this it this way - 4 yrs out - okay I am not at my dream weight but I have lost alot and still losing. My health is much better even though my knees say differently due to all the wear and tear. My eating habits have improved. I've learned to just shrug off those "family members" who refuse to include me or my husband ans sons in their lives.

You have to think what is best for you. Also go by what your PC dr (and any other of your drs) say I like you would gain 10 lbs a yr and never could get rid of it - if I did - it came back with more. One thing to remember -- this surgery is a starting tool to lose weight - not a miracle cure. And there will be bumps in the road to where you might gain a few lbs - but because I have "relearned how to eat" you will have no problem getting back on track.