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Hello all! Merry Christmas!!
I would like to send a gentle and friendly reminder to everyone on this wonderful Wednesday.... And this is to remind everyone (myself included) how very different each of our programs are and how success looks different for each of us.
It is easy to think our program is the right way.... the best way... the only way... and to think that everyone else should be doing it our way...
There are copious programs and guidelines out there and all have their own ways of doing things...
A friend of mine had to wait 3 months before she could move to 'regular' foods... Me? Two weeks....
I know people who are not to take their vitamins for 2 months... I started the day I got home from the hospital.
Some people are on clear liquids for weeks before AND after surgery... I was on clear liquids for 2 days preop and ONLY while in the hospital post op...
The variances go on and on.... Is mine 'righter' than someone else? Or wrong because it is less restrictive?
I am doing fine at 5 months post op. Have not had ONE problem... can eat anything... (and fight that!)... feel like a million bucks! And my friends, on different programs... same thing!
Sure, some programs are more inclusive than others. Mine does not have the personal trainer like some... shoot, I spoke to someone who's program has a gym and patients get to use it for free for a year! How awesome is that!?
And I talk to people who got NO eating guidelines to speak of... get no educational classes, nut classes, etc...
So yeah, some are better than others... just like some surgeons are better than others... but overall, most are just different, not better or "righter".... :)
ALSO... on another note... when it comes to post op success.... We are all different there too!
Some people NEVER eat a carb again! Some do...
Some have a glass of wine, or a shot of tequila :) And do not have transfer addiction issues, some do.
Some can use a straw, some can't...
Some have loads of loose skin, some don't...
Some (most ) lose some hair... not everyone does...
Some exercise their hearts out... some go for a walk 3 times per week...
Some lose quick, some not so fast...
Some have to work harder on head stuff than others... Some of us (ME!) will probably have to work ever so hard on the head stuff for the rest of our lives... some just don't have to... Why? Who knows!
Some want to eat all the time... some don't want to eat at all...
Some can get in their vitamins, protein, fluids without an issue. some have to work at this every single day...
My point in all of this... is we need to keep all of this in mind when we are responding to another post... And what works for one person, might not be what works for us... and that is ok! Ones persons program might be miles different than mine, and that does not mean its wrong... just different.
I hope my post does not ruffle anyones feathers... but after a few posts I've read over the last week or so, I thought it time for this to be said.
I would like to send a gentle and friendly reminder to everyone on this wonderful Wednesday.... And this is to remind everyone (myself included) how very different each of our programs are and how success looks different for each of us.
It is easy to think our program is the right way.... the best way... the only way... and to think that everyone else should be doing it our way...
There are copious programs and guidelines out there and all have their own ways of doing things...
A friend of mine had to wait 3 months before she could move to 'regular' foods... Me? Two weeks....
I know people who are not to take their vitamins for 2 months... I started the day I got home from the hospital.
Some people are on clear liquids for weeks before AND after surgery... I was on clear liquids for 2 days preop and ONLY while in the hospital post op...
The variances go on and on.... Is mine 'righter' than someone else? Or wrong because it is less restrictive?
I am doing fine at 5 months post op. Have not had ONE problem... can eat anything... (and fight that!)... feel like a million bucks! And my friends, on different programs... same thing!
Sure, some programs are more inclusive than others. Mine does not have the personal trainer like some... shoot, I spoke to someone who's program has a gym and patients get to use it for free for a year! How awesome is that!?
And I talk to people who got NO eating guidelines to speak of... get no educational classes, nut classes, etc...
So yeah, some are better than others... just like some surgeons are better than others... but overall, most are just different, not better or "righter".... :)
ALSO... on another note... when it comes to post op success.... We are all different there too!
Some people NEVER eat a carb again! Some do...
Some have a glass of wine, or a shot of tequila :) And do not have transfer addiction issues, some do.
Some can use a straw, some can't...
Some have loads of loose skin, some don't...
Some (most ) lose some hair... not everyone does...
Some exercise their hearts out... some go for a walk 3 times per week...
Some lose quick, some not so fast...
Some have to work harder on head stuff than others... Some of us (ME!) will probably have to work ever so hard on the head stuff for the rest of our lives... some just don't have to... Why? Who knows!
Some want to eat all the time... some don't want to eat at all...
Some can get in their vitamins, protein, fluids without an issue. some have to work at this every single day...
My point in all of this... is we need to keep all of this in mind when we are responding to another post... And what works for one person, might not be what works for us... and that is ok! Ones persons program might be miles different than mine, and that does not mean its wrong... just different.
I hope my post does not ruffle anyones feathers... but after a few posts I've read over the last week or so, I thought it time for this to be said.
I actually read a comment earlier today and thought how could anyone comment to someone like that. So this post is a bullseye. Thank you for posting.
I know, I try to put in MY posts..this is what my dr said, but you should ck with your own bariatric team.
Boo
Thanks for posting Becca...it is better to police ourselves than to be policed by someone outside of us. :-)
Tonya
RNY 11/19/2013
I have talked to several friends some of whom have gone to my doctor. I sure hope they are as happy as I am with the results.
When I answer a question I generally tell a person to check with their doctor or this is just my opinion.
I also feel that some surgeons are in it only for the money and not the best interest of their patients.
Here in this forum it should be about support AND education. You can't educate if your not going to tell the truth. A local bariatric surgeon tells his patients that they can have spaghetti-o's on the soft foods part of their plan....WHAT!?!? Spaghetti-o's are loaded with sugar and carbs. We do this surgery to change our lives and most of us were/are carb addicts. This would "feed" into that carb addiction.
In closing, keep it real, if I come here for advise, tell me the truth, tell me what works for you, tell me what I'm doing is not good. Keep it real!
Thanks for the opportunity to voice my opinion.
Shelley :o)
And Shelly,
You have NEVER said anything to anyone that seems un-supportive! I am there with you in that we can tell folks what we think... What might work better... how we did it... how it worked for us... even that we think someones program is off.... (I for one will tell anyone that Flintstones vitamins are something to reconsider even when given that option by their program!).
BUT... its so much in how we say it.... I can tell you (anyone) that I think their program is off kilter without saying "OMG! You are NOT following the rules and how could you possibly be doing THAT!?! Type of comments.... stuff I've seen lately and NEVER from you! :)
Heaven knows its not my job (nor do I want it) to police folks... I just felt compelled to share my 25 cents worth in keeping it kind so we don't lose people who come here for help!
Oh, and I also agree... TELL ME THE TRUTH! that sometimes, the things I hate to hear, that tork me off when I hear them... are often the very thing I need to hear in the first place! PLEASE, when I need to remove my head from my butt and get real... I hope someone says so! :)