Gambling Addiction & Recovery Support Group
Compulsive gambling is an urge or addiction to gamble despite harmful negative consequences or a desire to stop. A preferred term among many professionals is problem gambling, as few people described by the term experience true compulsions in the clinical sense of the word. Problem gambling often is defined by whether harm is experienced by the gambler or others rather...
Well talked with daughter today and told her bout loosing paychecks again. Said I have to have help right now! I can not keep going on like this any longer. I can't get into another financial mess again. Help me please. So tomorrow I go and discuss just what I need her to do. Keep my money out of my own hands. My bank does not limit or block debit cards from atms. So I have to do it myself.
I can't get cash at casinos but I maxed out at my banks atm then go. It's just as bad
I just took the daily 400 n would loose it. So debit card ur gone from my hands. I can't be trusted at all with one
Now just got to control myself n keep from getting angry
I can't get cash at casinos but I maxed out at my banks atm then go. It's just as bad
I just took the daily 400 n would loose it. So debit card ur gone from my hands. I can't be trusted at all with one
Now just got to control myself n keep from getting angry
Try not to hate yourself right now, I know that's easier said than done, but a positive outlook really helps. The negativity just feeds the gambling. While it's still fresh in your mind, write down exactly what you did & how it made you feel. Carry this letter with the you in your wallet...and when you get tempted, BEFORE you make the decision to gamble, read it and remember what gambling does & how it makes you feel. Ask yourself "what am I getting out of gambling?" Really, truly, "what am I getting out if it?" And examine all of your answers honestly & in depth.
You are fortunate to have someone you can trust to help you control your finances. I didn't have that. Every payday I pay my bills, get groceries & gas, and whatever is left I put on my gambling debt. You could also self exclude yourself from the casinos.
Hang in there, you CAN do this! (((Big HUG)))
Hungry, Angry, Lonely and Tired (HALT) this is a long standing tool used by most all 12 step programs. These are four triggers that are triggers for most people with addiction of any kind.
But it will be difficult to try to keep from ever being hungry, angry, lonely or tired again. It is far easier to have a plan for what you are going to do other than your compulsion/addiction the next time you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired. (I have to add bored and celebrating)
I owe my recovery to making plans. Plans about dealing with my triggers and planning meals, for the next time I have to be around someone that irritates me, plan for good sleep, plan for social activity and planning for times when I know I will get money. Time and money on my hands with no plan is ultra dangerous.
You can do this you have a good start.
Use LegalZoom or do a simple Google search to find a contract for confidentiality, and another contract for basic payee work -- how it will work, what s/he will do, how often, for what duration, what s/he will be compensated, and penalties for breaking the contract. Have the candidate sign both in front of you, a lawyer, or a notary.
I think a lot of us have self-esteem issues: We think we can't afford help, or we don't deserve help, or we would be drawing too much attention to ourselves to hire accounting help. Meanwhile, many of us spent hundreds to thousands each week while gambling, but we feel we don't have the money or the right to pay a professional to provide a much-needed service for us. It's hogwash, quite frankly.
Hire someone ASAP. $25-50/week should be enough.