Try to get books for your hubby to read about fibro. My husband read at least one introductory book on it when we were still dating. I told him it was a requirement if he was ever thinking of a real future with me because fibro is a major part of my life, and therefore would be major part of "our" lives. As soon as he could wrap his head around it the easier it would be. Sometimes he comes with me to my chronic pain management group, and that really helps, too.

Also encourage your husbad to read up on fibromyalgia articles everyone once in a while (maybe once a month). As soon as your husband realizes this is a serious chronic condition that, unless some mad scientist finds a cure, you will have to cope with for the rest of your life. And it is up to him to be a good husband and be supportive to your condition (even if he doesn't understand it) which means helping you find ways to manage / control your pain & fatigue.

That could be anything like: going with you every once in a while to your doc appts, helping you feel more comfortable (getting you cushions / pillows when you are in too much pain to move), pulling the car around for you so you don't have to walk very far, letting you get your rest when you need it, ... basically pampering you when you feel like crap.
But dont' nag him about doing things for you. Just tell him straight up what hurts you and what makes you feel better. Men need specific instructions. My husband caught on really fast, thank God, he's a fast learner. lol

I just read that when we are doing a task we should set an alarm for 20 minutes and then stop and rest for at least 10 minutes if not more and do this every time. I know I usually have to rest in between all tasks that I am doing. And right now it sounds like your body is being overloaded. Try to explain to your husband that you are not strong enough to keep working at the pace he can. Set up your own system that will work for you and when you need to stop then stop. Listen to your body.

I am so sorry you are in this situation, but never fear, cause several of us are also in the same thing. Mine does the same "Jekyll /Hyde" thing, so u never know what to expect. But I do know that many docs/therapists etc. have told me that the stress between us over this just makes my pain skyrocket. So try to see if he will help be educated, there are tons of good book suggestions on this board!
And if he isn't very responsive, then don't nag ( as I did :)!
He'll have to deal w it on his own- it's a grieving process for him too.

Not that I personally think that excuses them from those nasty behaviors!

I forgot to include this in my earlier post.
STRESS is the absolute biggest factor in my pain. I suffered for years do to stressful relationships. As soon as I met my fiance it was like night and day. Try your hardest to eliminate stress.

And what have you been eating during this huge move?
Stay off those diet sodas! Aspartame has 96 possible side effects and is poison to anyone with FM. Stay away from peanuts and all white rice and pastas too.
Look up a disease called Candida. 90% of the people with FM also have Candida. Learn how to control the Candida and you can live with the FM.
I actually found a clinic in Chicago IL that treats Fibromyalgia and my life has been so much better since.
Marla

You need to rest when your body tells you. I went through the reno process with my old house and ignored my fatigue and pain. I pushed myself into a seizure and several fainting spells. Now I have a lovely scar on my forehead (from stitches) reminding me that I have to listen to my body. It is hard, I am not going to assume your husband is making you. Perhaps he is putting to much demands on you or perhaps you feel obligated to do things (the same as I do). Either way you need to pace yourself. Let him know this, share this information with him. Overdoing it can push you into a very long and severe flare up. Trust me you do not want that.