Fibromyalgia Support Group

You're not alone in your pain. Fibromyalgia is a condition that can be difficult to diagnose and manage. If you're trying to cope with pain throughout your body, sleep problems, general fatigue, or other common fibromyalgia symptoms, you're in the right place. The community is here for you to talk about therapies and share your challenges.

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levisgranny 11/09/2007

I am sorry, but I don't quite get what you are trying to accomplish with the bumpfest. I could be wrong, but to me it looks like the only things the bumpers want us to write on this forum is happy stuff. I haven't been the victim of bumps yet, but the one from mominator tonight made me feel bad for the person she was bumping, like her feelings were nothing. I realize that everyone would like to only see happy things, but fibromyalgia isn't always a happy thing...atleast in my eyes(and my aching body!) Sometimes people with this awful crap need to vent. Maybe some of these friends have nowhere else to do that?! So, if we are not suppose to answer any rants or help anyone that is having a bad day, how are we helping out our fellow Fibromites? We can go anywhere on the web for happy things to make ourselves feel better, if that is what we are looking for. But, where do we go to talk about how much pain we are in,problems we are having with family, jobs and friends, the losing our mind feelings we get from the brainfog, and just the comradeness(don't know if that's even a word! lol!) of being able to express our feelings with others who have been there and to learn from others experience. Now, maybe I am taking this all wrong, and I hope I am, but I don't know if I would want to participate in a forum that only allows happy posts when this is definately NOT a happy situation. To the others on this forum who have been bumped to get you off the page because your post wasn't about fun stuff, feel free to email me and I will be more than happy to hear you out, because I know everyone needs to rant occasionally...including myself in this post. Lol! Please stop bumping people, it causes bruising! Gentle hugs to you all! Levisgranny

deleted_user 11/09/2007

Sorry I am not too savvy about this bumpung. What dies it mean. I see it a lot. Thanks! Sue

deleted_user 11/09/2007

I didnt know what BUMP meant. So it didnt bother me, I just thought uh! wassat mean. didnt make sense. So I suppose in my case ignorance is bliss

levisgranny 11/09/2007

Well, I am not real sure if I am right on my take of it. If I am way off, I apologize. I love visiting with all of my fibrofriends here, and I really don't want to hurt anyones feelings. I am just an old softy! Hugs, Cheryl

deleted_user 11/09/2007

I agree, everything in Life isn't sunshine & lollipops, especially if you have Fibro!!
If someone's telling you to "bump" think about the reasons "why" they want you to "bump" someone. Some do it to be vindictive, which doesn't say much for their character. But what can ya do? They'll do it regardless.

deleted_user 11/09/2007

if you all had been paying attention you would know the author wanted the subject dropped

deleted_user 11/09/2007

omg...your photo is hillarious! is it your baby? it looks like it has a nose ring! Yesterday I got the most awesome photo of my 21 month old son with a huge snot bubble...very gross...

deleted_user 11/09/2007

i just got the pic on the net thought it was hilarious

deleted_user 11/09/2007

Bumping simply means to put it to top of list.She just wants everone to be happy and get on with the real issues for those hurting in pain etc. Just meaning scrap the drama folks and lets just love on each other and help each other marily. Peace to all marilyn

deleted_user 11/09/2007

Where did LEVISGRANNY say that???

deleted_user 11/09/2007

All "bump"ing means is that you are bumping your or a friends thread up to the first page. I don't have a problem with it personally. Some posts require more attention at some points, that's a fact I realize sometimes. For instance, if I post something that is a general question about fibro, and someone comes along after me and posts that they just found out they have to have surgery, or have cancer, then I have NO problem if everyone "bump"s that post up over mine all day. It should be getting more attention. Not that it's more important, but it does require more "immediate" attention. I can ALWAYS go back and bump my post if I want to. Nothing is stopping anyone from bumping their own posts. Hope no one is offended, but I just don't have a problem with it.

deleted_user 11/09/2007

I did BUMP several posts yesterday afternoon....the ones that had gotten bumped down and never read I bumped back up...so NOT ALL the bumping was bad bumping !!

deleted_user 11/09/2007

I don't think bumping is a bad thing if it's being used in the right way...if someone needs help or answers and they aren't getting many, bump the post back to the top of the page. However, if the bumping is occuring simply to scoot a post to the second or third page, it's vindictive and shows a lack of sympathy or support for the poster.

deleted_user 11/09/2007

I think there is a general misunderstanding about bumping. The 'bump fest' was to get a post to page 2, because the original poster had asked people to stop replying to it and some people wanted to keep the drama going, which was hurting the entire community. The post was NOT about fibro, it was NOT about support, it was NOT a question, it was a personal discussion that has caused a lot of people to suffer greatly for several days. I do not believe ANYONE here would try to bump a request for help or support to the bottom. I went through the list last night and the night before and bumped others to the top, which moved the one post further down. That doesn't mean it was gone, anyone who wanted it could click on page two and there it was. It just moved the important posts to the top of the list. When I click 'add', this post will be in the number one spot. Whichever post is last on page one will automatically go to page two. Not because I want to get rid of it, but I feel this one deserves a response. I don't know which post will go to page two, but if someone replies to it, it will move to the top spot on page one again. No one is trying to delete a post, or ignore anyones need for support. The idea is to get those needs up front, and the post that was not about fibro out of the way, at the author's request.

deleted_user 11/09/2007

I am new here. I've been here only a few weeks and have not had much talk with many people. Can you explain this to me please? I read the last lady's answer to this and I don't get it. If you are bumping things to the back pages so there is no drama on the front page, then you said that people could go to the back pages to look for things, what is the difference or what is the purpose of bumping? Wouldn't it make more sense for posts just to be listed as they are received and not have other people decide what is worth reading and what is not? I really don't understand this.

deleted_user 11/09/2007

Well, posts are not listed as received and left in that spot, they move. I'll try to explain more clearly..The posts that are getting themost attention are on page one, because no one is replying to the others. They may be because there was a "double click", so the same pos is on the board twice, that happened this am. DOn't need two of the same, maybe everything anyone has to offer has been said, or it was a request for a web link, etc.,that has been answered, whatever, they are no longer being responded to. The newer and/or importantant posts get more replies, which keep them at or near the top. So if someone has a particlar need, or needs lots of support, perhaps has had a family death or having an especially bad day, they are constantly getting replies, and moving up. It's kinda like a conversation about the weather in person. When everybody has said all they have to say about the weather, the subject is dropped, and conversation goes to somethng else. If someone in the room wanted to talk about nothing BUT the weather, people would keep changing the subject

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