Hi kitty,
I will try and put this gently as possible. IF your husband is verbally attacking you for being sick, that is abusive. If you attempt counseling with him it may help but it could also worsen the situation. You sound fearful as if you're afraid of his next "fit". NONE of this is good for your Fibromyalgia. Stress only worsens our pain & symptoms, and it sounds like you have a handful of stress! Nobody deserves to be treated the way it sounds as if he is treating you. Especially when you're ill already. Talk about "kicking a person while they're down". I'm not a marriage counsellor so I'd never tell you to leave, BUT if this marriage does not improve with counseling you will never feel less pain from Fibro. Everything I've ever read on this subject recommends you REDUCE as much stress as possible. You're in my thoughts/prayers and I'm hoping your husband will finally "get it". Good luck to you kitty and please keep posting, let me/us know how you are doing?! Gentle Fibro hugs, Musta

I agree with Musta. Please take care of yourself. It sounds like you are in a situation which is being made so much worse by his abuse. There is a difference between not believing you are ill and attacking you verbally or otherwise. Please think about what Musta said. I know how I feel when I'm having a "good" day and something or someone happens to change that. I can only imagine what this stress is doing to you. You're in my thoughts and prayers as well. Please do let us know how you're doing?
Grammy

You deserve better than that, someone that will love and support you (not just financially). I'm no expert, but, I personally don't see a way this can be worked out for you other than just walking away. I hope you have family for support. Sometimes being alone to take care of yourself can be better than an alternative like what you are going through. Take care of, and prioritize, yourself.

I agree with musta,
If you are in fear, you need to get out, would be the only thing that I could add

I've been there. This won't get fixed. Please get to safety and take care of yourself.

My prayers go out to you and the others are correct..RUN and don't look back.

I have NO family support except my sister she has always been there for me we are not bio sisters but she has been like a sis to me she told me to leave to but I will face a simalar thing with her she can be very demanding she would help me with the divorce but she only calls me when she wants something if I', a beneafit to her i'm safe if I'm not who know she can kick me out and I have no where to go I can go to Alabama stay with my friend but I need $ for gas to get there I'm so scared nfinding a doc to give me my meds and actually having a place to go.If his dam brother wasn't involved John and I wouldn't have half the problems we have now. I just don't know what to do and I'm deathly scared. Dear God Help Me...

There are women's shelters specifically for this type of situation. You should be able to get their number thru your counselor's office or doctor's office and it will be confidential. They are very protective of their location and for good reason.

They will help you come up with an exit plan as well as help for getting to your friends if that is what is best. Do you think he would come after you to your friends and hurt you? These type of decisions they can help you with and give you safety and time to work it all out.

Sending hugs, love, and comfort.

Tonna

Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear. If you are afraid your internet and/or computer usage might be monitored, please use a safer computer, call your local hotline, and/or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1800799SAFE (7233).

They can help you find a local shelter and resources to hlep you through this situation. Please be safe.

God helps those who help themselves. Forget all the reasons you can think of for staying. Forget excuses. If you are afraid, leave. Call a shelter, get some help, and get moving

Thanks for all the advice. If I stay with my sister for a bit there is a TRO on my Hubbies brother and they can add John to it very easily problem is my sister is about to lose her house and I believe her motive for me to come there is for finical gain. I need to stick this out just a bit longer to tie up some lose ends. but I wrote down the info you gave me so when the time comes I can run. Im secretly packing so I can Just throw in car and run. God Bless you all

Hi again kitty,
These wise women have said what I wanted to, but did not have the information on hand to give you. Please listen to them! Get yourself to a safe place and KNOW we are all rooting for you! Bide your time until you can leave safely and then Godspeed to you. Best wishes and keep us all updated. God bless you too sweetie it will get better and you do deserve better! Gentle (hugs)

Because I rely on him for medical reasons seriously I have a blood condition I need the medical help. My friend who is like a sister is getting all the paperwork I need to file for SSDI and her Doc is willing to take over my care so I'm bying my time she lives 4 to 5 hours away but she is in a bind her self so I need to wait and see what happens with her. But I'm always welcomed. She saved my life when I met her so I'm trying to help her. anyways I just need to secure my Medical issues and wait to see if she has to move or not. When the time is right I will go Im slowly moveing my belongings to her she tells me to leave w/o the furinature get my name off the cable bill and get his name off the title on my car. I know he never take it from me but his brother will be ruthless and He listens to his brother. my name is on the title of the house now we file jointly on taxes so I can reallly fight but my sister tells me to not fight at all. what do ya all think? I got to go Hubby getting to intrested in what I'm doing

GOOD PLAN ! RUN !

Hi again kitty,
It's GREAT to read you're formulating a plan. You know in your heart of hearts and understand this marriage is not a healthy relationship. I am ecstatic to read the title to the house is in your name but nonetheless it IS the matrimonial home and may need to be divided equally or equitably, I'm not a lawyer and do not know where you live. What the laws are in your state. How long you've been married on and on. You will need to speak with an attorney but that can wait until you're safely out. For now get your medical stuff in order. Squirrel away whatever cash you can without him noticing. Clear your browser history daily. If you do not know how google will tell you the way to do it. The car title I'd not stress over! Unless its a brand new $30,000 car let him keep it! You can always buy another cheap used car, same with furniture. These things ARE replaceable. YOU and your health are not. You need to try and not stress too much as you bide your time. Do one thing at a time. Heck one thing a week and soon you will be away from the toxicity abuse brings. Above all be safe! Do not tell him of your plans. When you leave someone like this can be the most dangerous of all. I don't mean to scare you just want you aware is all. Again we're all rooting for you!! Take care, be safe and soon you will have an abuse free life. Sending strength and prayers, Musta