Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
My oldest daughter who is 42 absolutely hates me. Both my husband and I are mystified as to why. I have tried talking to her about it, asking that she go to therapy, and apologizing for any hurts I might have caused inadvertently. Her rage has been growing and she's taken to extremely abusive behavior. Twice now she's gone after me in public, when family is around. She is engaging in gaslighting me, and the end result is it makes me look insane. Just last weekend she was yelling at me during a family function and accusing me of speaking behind her back. There were people standing right there! I was incredibly embarrassed. However later when I spoke to these same people no one admitted to seeing anything untword. She has a way of attacking me so that no one else sees it! I've never seen anything like these stealth attacks. She also did this a few months ago. I was having a baby shower for my youngest daughter who is 39, and the older one insinuated I was uninvited. When I spoke to the younger one, this was denied, and I was made out to be insane,a liar, and out to harm my older daughter.
After the last attack I stormed out of the family function. I received a note from the older daughter's husband in which he said that I had to stop "speaking behind my daughter's back and storming out". I took the note to say that I was not to be around them if this continued. I basically wrote back in utter frustration that I had no intention of being around him or my toxic daughter from here on. This of course made it worse because my husband is angry, he feels he's out in the cold due to me, and I'm made out to be crazy, sick, awful, and whatever else!
I am damned if I do, and damned if I don't. If I stay away I'll be Cruela De Ville on Steroids. If I go, I'm going to be abused, gaslighted, emotionally harmed, etc.
HELP
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
Don't get involved in any attacks or defense attacks..... You can tell her that you'll be happy to talk with her when you can have a reasonable discussion however other then that you won't be party to this unreasonable drama
She's escalated this to her mother and father in law, and insisted I no longer be invited to any family functions. Actually that's fine, other than my poor husband who feels embarrassed and upset. Can't blame him actually.