Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
my partner was asked to drive some non driving members of her family on holiday on a fly/drive. of course she said yes and i wasn't invited or even asked if i minded her being away for 9 days(i have mental health issues and abandonment issues is part of my illness) its to a country where some of her family was born ,basically we are in the uk and this trip is to ireland.
a few years ago we had planned to go ourselves there for a holiday but as soon as a mentioned it on a social media site her sister said she had always wanted to go there and when was we going. so then my partner wanted to take her sister and her daughters as well. i didn't want to spend our first real holiday together with her sister and daughters as the eldest daughter has been extremely rude and nasty towards me several times and my partners sister is very annoying to be around and she has been rude to me only a few months ago. but of course my partner wont have a word said against them. .my partner told me after this trip to take some of her family ,she would take me there. i said just the two of us she said yes. but now her sister has started again about wanting to go and my partner said last night about her sister and her daughters coming with us. i couldn't take a week being around her sister and her eldest daughter ,the daughter tries to be clever and tries correcting me if she thinks if i say anything is wrong. i had a spend a car journey with her once all the time correcting me when i was just trying to have conversations with the other people in the car.shes 22 years old. anyway after my partner said she wanted to take her sister and daughters with us "to show them sites to do where their family has lived etc" and i said no i wanted it just us two she got snappy and said we would have two holidays then one with just us and then another taking her sister. her sister can drive i cant see why she can't take herself and her daughters there herself if she wants to go. my partners ex of 20 years ago said this sister has never stood on her own 2 feet (sister is 40) and its about time she did. but when we go our money situation will have changed and it will be me paying for our trip there and i can't afford to do this trip twice just so her sister and daughters can go with us. so i'm in a situation here ,if i say ok she can come with us ,she and her daughter are going to drive me crazy,its going to be all about visiting places their family lived and where her sister wants to go. any ideas would be welcomed if i tell my partner the real reason why i dont want them with us it will cause another row as she never defends me when they upset me.
a few years ago we had planned to go ourselves there for a holiday but as soon as a mentioned it on a social media site her sister said she had always wanted to go there and when was we going. so then my partner wanted to take her sister and her daughters as well. i didn't want to spend our first real holiday together with her sister and daughters as the eldest daughter has been extremely rude and nasty towards me several times and my partners sister is very annoying to be around and she has been rude to me only a few months ago. but of course my partner wont have a word said against them. .my partner told me after this trip to take some of her family ,she would take me there. i said just the two of us she said yes. but now her sister has started again about wanting to go and my partner said last night about her sister and her daughters coming with us. i couldn't take a week being around her sister and her eldest daughter ,the daughter tries to be clever and tries correcting me if she thinks if i say anything is wrong. i had a spend a car journey with her once all the time correcting me when i was just trying to have conversations with the other people in the car.shes 22 years old. anyway after my partner said she wanted to take her sister and daughters with us "to show them sites to do where their family has lived etc" and i said no i wanted it just us two she got snappy and said we would have two holidays then one with just us and then another taking her sister. her sister can drive i cant see why she can't take herself and her daughters there herself if she wants to go. my partners ex of 20 years ago said this sister has never stood on her own 2 feet (sister is 40) and its about time she did. but when we go our money situation will have changed and it will be me paying for our trip there and i can't afford to do this trip twice just so her sister and daughters can go with us. so i'm in a situation here ,if i say ok she can come with us ,she and her daughter are going to drive me crazy,its going to be all about visiting places their family lived and where her sister wants to go. any ideas would be welcomed if i tell my partner the real reason why i dont want them with us it will cause another row as she never defends me when they upset me.
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It does sound like she's very close to her family and that's great if you can all get along.. A trip is pretty closed quarters for several days however I don't think she should allow anyone in her family to treat you badly when she's doing them a favour by driving
i didn't know until last night she was going to ask all of them i thought the two youngest would stay at their dads home. last night i tried to compromise by suggesting their mum looked after her nieces while just her sister came with us . to be honest the daughter i don't get on with has this whinny voice then she starts screeching loud if shes not getting her own way ,i couldn't cope with that for a week .
Maybe it's time for you to take a stand and just tell your partner, these are the arrangements that I'm making and I don't want to hear about anyone else tagging along.
It sounds as though your partner is used to you conceding to her wishes.
I agree with SunCloud, no one in your partner's family should be treating you with disrepect. Apparently, they feel free to because there's no repercussions from your partner. Sounds like you need to put your foot down..