Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
My step-mom, dad, and younger sister rarely go out of their way to contact me. These are the three main people I grew-up with. My step-mom has been my "mother-figure" since I was about 3-years-old.
I currently live 3.5 hours away from home and they RARELY contact me. 95% of the time I have to be the first to email them, call them, text them, and see them. Whenever something big happens in my life they show minimal interest. I moved from my college town to a new city- who cares? I bought my first new car- who cares? I got a new puppy- who cares?
I'm so SICK of making all of the effort. I'm SICK of feeling like they could care less about the new and exciting things that are happening in my life. There have been so many times over the past few years that I've wanted to move far away with my boyfriend and just start over without any of them being involved in my life anymore- then I could just stop expecting things from them.
My younger sister and step-mom are very close. They share this "natural" and "spiritual" lifestyle where they swap health food recipes and garden together. Those are things that have always interested me but I'm NEVER included in their interests.
My sister always advocates this "be passionate and love others" attitude but acts so distant and cold towards me. One of her favorite things is animals yet she never said a single word to me when I got my puppy.
I don't ask for much. All I want is a call every now and then. I'm completely serious when I say the only time they call me is once a year on my birthday- and even then they'll wait until the day is practically over (or one year my dad just had my step-mom pass long his "happy birthday" to me because he was busy working).
Maybe my boyfriend and I should just move, get married, and start our own family. We'll create our own support system. At least I know that I'll NEVER put my future children through this.
I currently live 3.5 hours away from home and they RARELY contact me. 95% of the time I have to be the first to email them, call them, text them, and see them. Whenever something big happens in my life they show minimal interest. I moved from my college town to a new city- who cares? I bought my first new car- who cares? I got a new puppy- who cares?
I'm so SICK of making all of the effort. I'm SICK of feeling like they could care less about the new and exciting things that are happening in my life. There have been so many times over the past few years that I've wanted to move far away with my boyfriend and just start over without any of them being involved in my life anymore- then I could just stop expecting things from them.
My younger sister and step-mom are very close. They share this "natural" and "spiritual" lifestyle where they swap health food recipes and garden together. Those are things that have always interested me but I'm NEVER included in their interests.
My sister always advocates this "be passionate and love others" attitude but acts so distant and cold towards me. One of her favorite things is animals yet she never said a single word to me when I got my puppy.
I don't ask for much. All I want is a call every now and then. I'm completely serious when I say the only time they call me is once a year on my birthday- and even then they'll wait until the day is practically over (or one year my dad just had my step-mom pass long his "happy birthday" to me because he was busy working).
Maybe my boyfriend and I should just move, get married, and start our own family. We'll create our own support system. At least I know that I'll NEVER put my future children through this.
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
Have you told them exactly what you posted here???
How old are you? Your sister? Are you leaving any past rift out of the story?
I wish I had something more for you...
If you tell them how they make you feel, in a nice way, maybe they will be more likely to stay in touch with you and take more of an interest in the things you do.
Good Luck!
I finally gave up on my family and moved on with my life.
You do know that family doesn't have to be blood related.
Either way, whether they cannot or will not give you what you need...then, it's time to move on with your life.
I mean, why waste time trying to connect to those who are like that?
There are plenty of other people in the world who can and will place you in a special place in their own life. That's who I would live to find. Somebody needs your love, comfort and genuine character. Don't waste it anymore...invest it in those who will reciprocate your wonderful love.
Hope this helps.
Could they be jealous of you by any chance? My Dad and brother want nothing to do with me. They are jealous of me because their lives stink, and mine doesn't. Well, not as much as theirs does, anyway. Sometimes i wonder if it has anything to do with moving away from home. Wait until you have a baby and they show no interest, that will really get to you.