Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
Guess i am just looking for some advice because I am upset at the moment I feel like I've lived in my sisters shadow forever and even as adults seems all about her and her doings. I have had a lot of good news and new changes this summer one being a start of a new job i proposed to my partner and just trying to enjoy every minute . But I
Still always feel singled out and like
No one cares. I feel very distant from my mother and always last to hear things and when I bring that up i get the well your never home card which is jut ridiculous. I know she is still adjusting to my engagement since I am gay and last of 2 children so maybe empty best syndrome is hitting in but I constantly just feel like I'm fighting for approval and just so frustrated and sad over it and every time I feel happy it's always something that is said or done that brings me down and I shouldn't have to feel that way. I know I feel like in just rambling but just to the point where I am fed up and hurt wish I can just not feel like a stranger in my family and be accepted and not feel like a failure or outcast
Still always feel singled out and like
No one cares. I feel very distant from my mother and always last to hear things and when I bring that up i get the well your never home card which is jut ridiculous. I know she is still adjusting to my engagement since I am gay and last of 2 children so maybe empty best syndrome is hitting in but I constantly just feel like I'm fighting for approval and just so frustrated and sad over it and every time I feel happy it's always something that is said or done that brings me down and I shouldn't have to feel that way. I know I feel like in just rambling but just to the point where I am fed up and hurt wish I can just not feel like a stranger in my family and be accepted and not feel like a failure or outcast
My advice is to form a line of communication. Maybe meet mom for coffee once a week or call her. If possible try to start a tradition like having dinner once a week or once a month, or shopping together. Something that will give you time to catch up. You each have your own lives so don't try to live hers, but do take an interest.
Also don't forget to learn to love yourself and focus on creating your own life. We don't always get approval and that is normal, also we don't always agree with our mothers and sometimes it is better not to share everything about us, because we know that they don't understand anyways. Live your life and be happy for what you have accomplished.
It stinks when our family doesn't share in our successes and I understand that even at 27, there's an emptiness. Like if you ever have kids, you'll feel a loss if your mom isn't there to be a grandparent.
Ever try to have an open conversation about this with her? Not to blame, but just tell her you wish you were closer? Ever consider going to therapy with her?