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Lack of Intimacy

veronica_verselis
veronica_verselis

My husband and I had a lovely romantic story!!
We met at one of my friend's engagement party. He was my friend's fiance’s best buddy. We fell in love at first sight. We dated for around 1 year and then we got married. It was all going well for 20 years. We were a happily married couple. It was on our 21st anniversary, my husband told me that he is not comfortable in making love with me.
Now we have gone 5 years with no intimacy at all. He seems to be fine with it, and he even convinced himself that I am also okay with it. I’m really frustrated now. I need to convince my husband. It was one of my friends who has suggested me a couple counseling in Toronto. Should I go to this counseling clinic with my husband or directly open up in front of him?
Please give some suggestions

trulycommitted
trulycommitted
I’m sorry to hear about the struggles you are facing in your marriage. It seems to me that you may need to have a face-to-face with your husband and discuss this matter. A counselor might be a good idea. I know your situation may seem impossible right now, but I do believe there is hope. Stay strong. Sending hugs and prayers your way!
P00hbear
P00hbear
Did he give you a reason for not being comfortable? Maybe something else is happening with him that he feels embarrassed to share - it seems odd and sudden, and five years with no intimacy is a long time! Maybe let him know you want to discuss this further because you would like intimacy again and want to know how to work through this with him. Would he be open to the conversation?
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug for you Veronica..... I would definitely have a conversation with him.... I think communication is huge in a relationship

I would ask if there is any physical problems..... A therapist may help a great deal if you're both willing to go

There are a couple of boards on here that might be of help to you... One is Healthy Relationships and I'll put up a link and there's also a Healthy Sex board.....xo

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/healthy-relationships
veronica_verselis
veronica_verselis
I tried to start a discussion with him. But something was stopping me. Usually, men are interested in such things right. I don't understand why he is behaving like this. I hope he is not into someone else.
veronica_verselis
veronica_verselis
Thank you @suncloud for your concern. He never shares his personal issues with anyone. He is that kind of man.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Your needs are just as important as his?? Right?.....I would talk with him about what YOU need and if it's really important to you I would tell him so..... Big hug.....xo
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