Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
sorry all this may be long.
i'm going through a divorce. i got married last january. separated in april and in the divorce process now. i'm in my mid-30s and had a very successful (yet very high-stress) career in financial services. my husband was slightly older (early 40s) and we had been planning on TTC shortly after our wedding. obviously, that didn't happen, but in preparation for having a family i went back to school to become a teacher.
i live in a state that makes it next to impossible for career changers to education to succeed. it is what it is and it sucks that my state doesn't value people who have worked hard their whole lives but ... eh... it's government for ya ;) . meanwhile, i have been able to eek out my moderate special needs license and am hoping to add my general education elementary license to make myself more marketable. in this whole process, i have separated and am nearing divorce of my husband.
unfortunately, i had to go back to college full time to get just my MSN license. that said, i've had to move back in with my parents. i've been applying to jobs like crazy and airing my frustrations to my parents about getting my general education license. meanwhile, i have a few leads within special education but they are in the most affluent towns in my state. i live in more of a working class town.
my problem? my mother has been discouraging my efforts with my job search. she has been telling me that i'm applying to "reach" districts and that i shouldn't get discouraged when they don't hire me. well um... hello... it's pretty discouraging when you're telling your 34 year old daughter that she won't get hired in certain districts because they are a "reach".... it's been awful. we just had a big blowout fight and i want to run as far and as fast away as i can... but i have no where else to go.
i told her i felt invalidated when she said teh things she did and she countered with, "no you're wrong! i'm not invalidating you!" WTF!!!!! so you're telling me how i feel is wrong? sorry i don't know what i need advice with... i'm just feeling isolated, and wanting to get away....
i'm going through a divorce. i got married last january. separated in april and in the divorce process now. i'm in my mid-30s and had a very successful (yet very high-stress) career in financial services. my husband was slightly older (early 40s) and we had been planning on TTC shortly after our wedding. obviously, that didn't happen, but in preparation for having a family i went back to school to become a teacher.
i live in a state that makes it next to impossible for career changers to education to succeed. it is what it is and it sucks that my state doesn't value people who have worked hard their whole lives but ... eh... it's government for ya ;) . meanwhile, i have been able to eek out my moderate special needs license and am hoping to add my general education elementary license to make myself more marketable. in this whole process, i have separated and am nearing divorce of my husband.
unfortunately, i had to go back to college full time to get just my MSN license. that said, i've had to move back in with my parents. i've been applying to jobs like crazy and airing my frustrations to my parents about getting my general education license. meanwhile, i have a few leads within special education but they are in the most affluent towns in my state. i live in more of a working class town.
my problem? my mother has been discouraging my efforts with my job search. she has been telling me that i'm applying to "reach" districts and that i shouldn't get discouraged when they don't hire me. well um... hello... it's pretty discouraging when you're telling your 34 year old daughter that she won't get hired in certain districts because they are a "reach".... it's been awful. we just had a big blowout fight and i want to run as far and as fast away as i can... but i have no where else to go.
i told her i felt invalidated when she said teh things she did and she countered with, "no you're wrong! i'm not invalidating you!" WTF!!!!! so you're telling me how i feel is wrong? sorry i don't know what i need advice with... i'm just feeling isolated, and wanting to get away....
Well, what I learned in life, because I have a very non supportive mother and that is I don't need validation from her anymore. It would be nice to get it, but I know I won't. So, I get validation from people I know are going to give it back to me, and be very positive, and nurturing to me.
It's sad when it's your own mother, but when you can come to that conculsion earlier, it's so much easier to let go, and move on.