Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I have a bully of a sister, and I need a neutral opinion.
She bullied me all thru our childhood. OMG this is really a long story. But what made me mad today is remembering that she stole my artwork to get accepted into art college then did not complete the program and got a good shiny job on a lie. She has taken my son from me since he was about 15, now he is 32 and getting married and i'm supposed to step up and do all, under her annoying command. I dont want my son to suffer, but for years in a row I FB him and he is off on vacation with my sister!!
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Hey all, i know its been quite awhile since i posted on here. Its been a summer all right. Its been something else........... You know how they say not to open the can of worms? Well a few months ago i decided to find out what my due date would have been for my first baby, the one conceived by r***. My baby would have been due on March 4th of 2006. They would be 20 years old. I was R**** on June...
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
http://outofthefog.website/top-100-trait-blog/2015/11/4/triangulation-divide-conquer
On my Facebook page?
Then she would read it and know I'm onto her game, and not just oblivious to all this stuff.
Like the thing about her is she's getting away with all this and she's just gonna keep at it in bigger ways, so my life is really screwed!
Like I have no one close to confide in. I don't have any close friends, and my relatives are my sister and my son (after my parents are gone). I'm quite happy being alone, I just have casual friends.
I would perhaps start to work on having a positive relationship with your son and let some of the 'stuff' that's upsetting to you now go.... If you can get into some therapy for you to move forward
I would stop taking the bait that your sister puts out.... If you don't take the bait there will be no fish to fry ya know.....Big hug......
Your son is who is really important to you.... I would work really hard on that not being overshadowed by all of the hurt and pain...... For the pain I would try and get some help..... xo
I still cannot believe how that page was SO right, I thought this was a one in a million case.
And then how I said before reading that, that I said I was questioning my own mental capacity, and it is RIGHT THERE!.
How did she know how to master this plan?
I don't think I would have thought of doing it.
And now I'm wondering should I feel sorry for her and understand that this may be something that she cannot control?
Well maybe I should anyway,
If I see it that way then I won't do anything, less make sure she doesn't screw me over regarding my aging parents.
I guess my son will have to like me or not. He is old enough.
I really still do get angry when I think they are all going on Vacation together & on their honeymoon, without me though. I guess they probably know it would make me sad. Why is my son going on his Honeymoon with My sister and her family? Maybe he is seeing her as an "Authority Figure", as the page said.
Yea, and what am I doing now?
Making Wreaths and Picture frames out of seashells for wedding presents, on top of a bunch of stuff I have already bought.
I know I am going overboard, but I'm trying my best for my son & his wife to like me.
I will look into it ASAP.
I don't know what else to say, or how you could help anymore.
But that page was an Eye Opener!
So, thank You for that. Now I have some ammo to start the conversation.
I'm sure my venting and that "Triangulation-Divide-Conquer Page", saved me a few sessions of mucking about in Therapy.
So, Big Hug back at you, SunCloudJD!
This was amazing! And again, you have given me a clear path to follow.
I was very confused and angry at the beginning of my typing. I do feel much better! I know what I need to do.
And I don't feel as "mentally incompetent" as I did a week ago!
I'm honestly thinking I am sort of OK...
I just wanted to add, that I was pretty sure I was Sexually Abused when I was little.
But could never remember any solid memories.
I think now that perhaps it was just the abuse from my sister when I was little.
My father was not perfect, though. If I did anything wrong, like just an accident or something, he would always say " You stupid kid". Like in a long drawl..
That really screwed me up for sure. Totally ruined my self esteem so badly, even to this day, I'm damaged goods.
He tried that again on my son when he was little and I stopped him in his tracks.