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Please explain to me what the focus of this website is, because I am a bit confused.
It is my understanding that his forum is for people of all backgrounds, experiences, and situations to come together and gain support from each other, to share whatever they feel is needed to say, and to help others in someway. Am I correct in my belief???
I ask because I have been a member of this forum since 2011. Over the years, I have seen this forum steadily go from being a very good source for support and help, to being one of a clique where unless you are part of the clique then you and your issues are not wanted and pretty much ignored.
There was a time, several years ago where I felt it was okay to be here, and I was free to post and respond to threads. However, over the last two years I see an increasing change. Many times, as soon as I post something on a thread the conversation just stops, as if I ruined it for everyone because I dared to participate i the conversation. Likewise, what threads I do post here, which are not many anymore, I receive extremely little responses, whether it is sharing my personal thoughts, citing an article published on the Internet, or anything else.
So, I am really getting the felling more and more that folks on this forum would prefer that I leave or at least that I not participate in things. If that is the case, then by all means please let me know and I will leave.
It is my understanding that his forum is for people of all backgrounds, experiences, and situations to come together and gain support from each other, to share whatever they feel is needed to say, and to help others in someway. Am I correct in my belief???
I ask because I have been a member of this forum since 2011. Over the years, I have seen this forum steadily go from being a very good source for support and help, to being one of a clique where unless you are part of the clique then you and your issues are not wanted and pretty much ignored.
There was a time, several years ago where I felt it was okay to be here, and I was free to post and respond to threads. However, over the last two years I see an increasing change. Many times, as soon as I post something on a thread the conversation just stops, as if I ruined it for everyone because I dared to participate i the conversation. Likewise, what threads I do post here, which are not many anymore, I receive extremely little responses, whether it is sharing my personal thoughts, citing an article published on the Internet, or anything else.
So, I am really getting the felling more and more that folks on this forum would prefer that I leave or at least that I not participate in things. If that is the case, then by all means please let me know and I will leave.
For instance, a lot of people here have loved ones caught up in CP /stings. Many times there's just nothing for me to add to that conversation
However, just as we always have to remember that we have trolls who lurk, we also have family members and other validly interested parties who lurk too. Many who might be new to this, feel overwhelmed and intimidated and who just want to read for awhile.
So, keep on posting, hun and don't feel bad, sometimes I feel like a "thread killer" too but I'm sure it's not intentional on anyone's part. Some threads just get more traffic and discussion depending on what's going on at the moment.
The moderators do not steer the forum.... only see that people follow the forum rules.
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There are many knowledgeable folks here that are going through situations just like you and although they may not have all the answers, they share similar experiences going through what you are. No moderator will allow any disrespectful responses.
Please don't be afraid to post! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain!
I'd keep posting, if folk can help they will help.
Please don't leave. Your input is important and can help someone in need.
Mary
My concern is that I do not want to tread on territory I am not wanted. And as I wrote, I have been getting the feeling more and more that I am, especially when as soon as I respond to a thread everyone just stops talking -- someone called this a "thread killer" and yeah, that is what I feel that I do by sharing my views or whatever.