Actually, that's not quite true Kitty. These posts are searchable and occasionaly we have a troll or 2. Kr...just don't give out details... no state info etc. You should be ok

faeryedark, thanks for the info.

No arrest as of yet. The waiting is horrible. We just sit here and look out the window waiting for them to come and cry nonstop. So many questions. If they do come, do I meet them at the station?

i wouldn't surrender him without an attorney there. Unfortunately waiting is the worst part :-(

We are just waiting. My heart drops with every car that drives by

I am so sorry, I'm hoping the police hold off till you can get an attorney.

If those clothes are in your possession inside your house I do not believe you have to surrender them without a search warrant - if they are dumb enough to show up without one you do not have to let them in the house AT ALL. You have said that your son confessed - to whom? If not to a LE officer tell him not to ever say that again! There is a difference between morally guilty and legally guilty - in many ways you are lucky enough to have a heads up to talk to your son about these things. What is the age difference between the 2 kids?

Could she maybe hand the clothes through the lawyer? I'm just thinking that having them come back with a warrant is A) antagonistic and B) opening up the family for what could be a traumatic experience. Even if it is their right to request they have one.

They had a warrant. They age difference is 14yrs. Now we just wait. I don't know if I send him to school or not. I would hate for them to pick him up there. Waiting is killing me right now

I understand your plight. You want to keep everything as normal as possible, but the thought of them pulling him out of class and putting him in a cop car in front of his peers is frightening.

If you pulled him out of school, are you able to homeschool him until this case is over? I really wouldn't put it past them to do such a thing.

This time IS the most difficult to go through. The waiting and unknown is hard for everyone involved. It will be difficult for the parents of your neice (as it sounds like she is too young to know what's going on), as it is for you and your son, and other family members.

Don't say a lot to the family, but just remind them that yhis affects you too, and that you want to ensure that they are appropriately represented - and Victim Advocates are not there to advocate for the victim and their family, but to pressure the victim and family to testify to help the DA win their case, even if it's not in their best interest.
Daughter feels more victimized by the system, than what her dad did. My heart goes out to you....

You may want to keep him at home from school until you get a attorney. You don't have to say what state you are in, but do a few internet searches on juvenile interrogation in your state. The last thing you want to do is have him at school and he gets picked up there. (it's possible). With social media and public perception, that could cause other issues getting him back into school down the road.

Keep him with you. Do not share details with anyone. Do not ask for details from your son. His speech is NOT protected unless it is with an attorney. Because he is a minor, the attorney will have to talk to you at some point. If he was an adult, you would know far less.

I had to borrow money to get an attorney, I ended up taking money from my 401k (which no longer exists). If you can refinance your house (assuming you have one), I would do so. I know money is tight, $6,500 seems like quite a bit, but given the circumstances, is definitely worth it.

I definitely agree, how much would you pay 5 years from now to have your son not be in prison? 6500 is a ton of money but it will pay off in the long run.

I am confused - they had a warrant? they already came to the house? getting confused here - who did he confess to?

They had a warrant to get her clothes I think?

Kr.... I feel for your son and you as well. This is a long road and the anxiety will get to everyone involved. I have been in your sons situation. I just turned 16 and I was babysitting the neighbor kids 3 girls under the age of 13 and they were playing truth or dare. One of them was dared to touch my penis. I wasn't playing and I didn't stop it so there for I am the "monster".

I was a registered sex offender for 14 years when I learned that I was charged as a juvenile and was eligable for removal. and since have gotten off the registry.

My advice is don't talk to anyone. Don't let your son talk to anyone. I was one of the ones whom trusted in the police and thought they would help me and understand well guess what they don't. Seek legal advice. Sell anything that you can to save your son. I know money is tight. My parents were told that we didn't need a lawyer when we asked for one. I wish I would have had one.

God bless you and If you need someone to talk to you can always send me a private message.