i believe there should be a registry, but i do not believe it should be public. i think that the only people who need to know are the police, libraries, school, and such.

this is not trying to pick on you lulugirl3 or put you down in anyway, but there are some things that i do not agree with.
"An adult should NEVER abuse a child in any way or form....NEVER. "
this is where the registry is horrible. it doesn't distinguish between someone who was 18 with a 15 or a 40 year old with a 15. logically the 18 year old is an adult and the 15 year old is a child. an 18 year old adult can still be in high school and the 15 year old would also be in high school. would you consider them peers? here's another question for you.... how about 28 and 15? my (adopted) grandparents were 20 years apart. they got married at the age of 36 and 16, and they lived in Minnesota on a farm. this was back in the early 1910's. Laura Engles (don't know if that spelled right) Wilder got engaged at the age of 14 to an 18 year old then got married at the age of 18. i could probably mention a ton more people who (if in this age) broke the law or by your meaning "been with at least one underage...." personally i don't understand why people need to cheat...i mean your husband had you, and he didn't consider that lucky? man, i wish i had a good woman in my life, because really i know i wouldn't have offended in the first place, nor the second.
i am sorry if it sounds like i'm picking on you, as i don't mean to. it's just i think the registry needs to not be public and it should include the age of the person and the victim/victims at the time of the offense.

My view is diffrent, I believe there should be a registry for the violent offenders. Never do I think it is okay to abuse a child! I have been dealing with my husbands CP charges for almost 3 years and he is required to register for life due to a 1 min and 42 second video. I will never understand this. He had no CP on his computer when they looked it over they got him on the video he downloaded that day. The judge, DA and attorny said he would have to register for 10 years, but PA passed a law if you have 2 sex offenses you are required to register for life. No one was aware of this I came across the by accident and the justice system said to me: It could be worse he could be in jail. Are you kidding me it was one video. So I will fight till I take my last breath. This has to change not so much for my husband but for my kids and there kids. I send letters make phone calls and do what I have to. I dont have to do this, we are doing okay and people leave us alone and we have a great support system, but this is getting out of control and people need to be aware. PA is in a hugh financial crisis and they send 2 police officers out to my house at 8pm to see if my husband still lives there. Scranton cant pay there bills but we can pay cops overtime to do this. Sorry venting!

I think there should be a registry for violent or repeat offenders, or someone charged with more than one felony at that time. I hate that it is public knowledge and my house is marked. Those that run the system are too afraid themselves to speak up to make any changes. I think it is one giant cluster fuck. I have a friend whose daughter got into "cutting" and they feared suicide...not only bc of what her dad did (online sting) but bc the system jerked them around to the point it chased my friends and daughters out of the stay to get away from all of it. Again, for me, it is the whole chold thing....and the lies, and putting my health at risk. You know, this was a great family b4 all of this. This is personal for me...take the law out of the picture and it is still personal. And , Anarchy< I do not feel you are picking on me. You are entitled to your opinion. You're right...my H had me...a wife and friend that would have done anything to help him with his E.D....I knew ther was a problem, but he acted tired bc he travelled so much and he kept things to himself. Part of me still loves him. Part of me hates him. Almost 5 years later I look at him and still have "mind movies" of what he has done....not good!

then i appoligize lulugirl3 i didn't mean to make it seem like i was picking on you. was wondering on your views on 20 and 15, or 28 and 15. both my cases were non forced, and non violent. both cases the parents knew me and my ages. the first victim's parents even paid for a private lawyer for me, and the second one still allowed me to live in their home after 3 years. was just curious, ah well once again i apologize. also did your husband only have 1 count?

I didn't think you were picking on me, so no need for an apology. 20 and 28 are both too old for a 15 year old in my opinion, to even date. Sorry. I don't mean to offend you. My H was 54 with a 15 year old. I do also realize that some 15 year olds come across way older than they are. My H knew she was young, but claims he didn't know how young. Who knows how many other hookers were underage. He got caught after the cop witnessed the solicitaion and followed them to the motel making arrest as they were about to enter the room. My H has 2 counts: solicitaion of a minor and possesion of child pornography. 10 year RSO, probation,
$10, 000 fine and 500 hours community service. He does all that is required for the PO, just not for us. He is a considered mentor in his group.

If there has to be a registry. it should be LE only AND it should be up to the discretion of the Judge, except for the extreme cases. There should also be opportunities along the way to petition to be off the registry, if the registerant meets certain criteria...stays out of trouble and what not.

i guess that's how life is each to their own. meh i think there shouldn't be a public registry, but i do believe in a registry. i just wish i didn't have to pay for it. lol. they want me on it then they should pay for it. ah well. life goes on. personally i think 20 and 15 is ok. 28 and 15 not ok. then again. i can see your point being in a lot of therapy. i took a lot away from them. being with their peers, prom, and the likes that children need to learn and grow. ah well. i just wish i took therapy the first time around, because i learned a lot about myself (mostly bad), but i learned how to not have feelings just because someone gave interest in me.

As I said before, the registry and the laws affecting sex offenders will never change until the families of the sex offenders raise enough hell to get the attention of the politicians. Nobody cares about sex offenders themselves; a sex offender's opinion does not count because he has been so demonized by the media.

Politicians are so hypocritical and so worthless. When they want to get support for some sex offender legislation, they all shout from the rooftops, "THINK OF THE CHILDREN!!!!! If it saves one child this law will have been worth it."

But what about the children of sex offenders??? Do they not count??? They cannot be held responsible for what mommy or daddy may have done to be on the registry. Is it fair to the children of sex offenders to punish them in this manner??? And is it fair to punish a wife or girlfriend of a sex offender for being in love with that sex offender???

Whenever I hear someone play the THINK OF THE CHILDREN card I know that either they are going to try to pass some laws to take away our privacy on the internet or they are getting ready to pass some sex offender legislation---and they need the public's support.

This is all BS. If the politicians really cared for the children of this nation, we would see sweeping legislation to provide better education, better health services, and more support for our kids. They don't care that much about the children---all they care about is getting re-elected.

I think most of the people on this board are decent people who are just trying to get through this mine field called the sex offender registry. I spent three years of my life defending this country in the jungles of Vietnam, and I would do it again to defend the kind of people that post on this board.

But I would not walk across the street to defend a politician---and btw DAs are politicians too.

rew

I have one question to ask everyone about human history... Do any of you believe that it was OK that they listed all Jews and Political dissidents on a registry under the the reign of the Nazis? Do any of you believe that it was OK to what we did with the people with Japanese heritage that lived here in the US after Pearl Harbor?

If you answered NO to any of those questions, then how can anyone justify a public registry? If you want to know the naked truth, WE ARE ALL ON A REGISTRY its called Social Security, it is tied to every loan you get, car you drive, home you own, job you work, and so on. We are on more than one registry too, if you have any kind of State photo ID you are on a registry. How many do you think we as a country really needs?

There is no reason for a registry, they are keeping track more than you know.

lulugirl,
I understand the pain and anger you must feel. If my husband of 40 years had ever cheated, I "think" it would be the end of our relationship.

However, I take offense to some of your comments. Our son was charged for having contact (no intercourse) with a 16 year old girl. She contacted him, she pursued him.

Orignally, one count. When he refused the plea, (he would have served 6 months in jail) they stacked the charges.

He went to trial, he was convicted on all 5 counts. He was in prison for three years. He was on a ankle braclet for three years. He is a life time registrant because our state does not have levels. Every registrant is lumped together.

So just because someone was accused or convicted of more than one count, means nothing to me. They can (and do) charge you with more than one count even if it was a one time incident.

By the way, I was 17 (a minor) when I dated my wonderful husband. He was 22.

The public registry should be obolished. Mostly because of the children of those on it, and also because those on it become a target of violence. .

If my husband had just cheated, that might be different. This was with hookers. I got an std. Children were viollated by him vewing the porn. He was caught with a 15 year old when he was 54, not 18. I also did not mean to offend you or anyone else. I stand by my thinking that if he hadn't done what he did, he wouldn't be on the registry. I don't like it. I don't like that my son has to deal with it. I don't like that my house has a big red mark on it on certain web sites...like "Homefacts"...
In some states 17 is not a minor.
I am also very sorry for your son. The system is a mess and it just gets worse.

I am so sorry about what happened to you lulu... a friend of mine recently was given Herpes simplex 2 from a guy that she was only dating... he of course never told her he was a carrier since the age of 9 or 10 and she was so sick for almost 2 weeks. I remember helping her through it, or should I say trying to help her through it. The anger, the betrayal, the fear of the future, the shame for getting it in the first place.. she went through the gamut. I felt so badly for her. and this is something that she'll never be cured of. So I can empathize with you about that, he betrayed you beyond reason... I am so sorry...

no one deserves to be treated like you have...

thank you.

lulugirl.
I want to add that I too am very sorry for all that you and your son are going through. Your husband betrayed you in the worst possible way.
You and your son are the "true victims"!