As some of you know, I'm engaged to Tyzz and he just came off the sex offenders registry. We were in court so that he would be allowed around my children (7 of them) as their father wouldn't allow it. We have been in court for a year and although Tyzz was never allowed around my kids my access hours increased. I took them shopping bought them clothes and shoes, make up and toys. We went to the park and play centres and we all enjoyed our visits.
Well today Family Services showed up unannounced and told me I had to sign a safety agreement or else I couldn't see my children any more, only one of them is an adult. So I signed it under protest as the conditions state that I will not have them around Tyzz, that my ex (their father) or his wife are present the whole time and it has to be in a public place. Now my ex and his wife and I do not get along. When we were married he tried to rape me which is one of the reasons the marriage fell apart. Him and his wife have sent me nasty emails since the court proceedings started. I have submitted all these documents to the court and they have been told to knock it off but they still kept it up and I feel this is the last blow.
Because I breached the court orders in October last year and let the kids come inside to use the bathroom when Tyzz was home I was warned not to do it again. Now families SA question my judgment as a mother, they also quesion my mental health.
There is no way I am doing supervised visits with my ex and his bitch, I would be on edge the whole time and it says it can be either one or both of them.
So I have made the decision to leave town and leave my children behind. I lost custody 2yrs ago for the second time so i was never going to get them back. I just thought Tyzz and I could get married and have them over for a few hours during the weekend. I thought we could all go shopping together or go to the movies together, you know, public places so no one could accuse us of anything untoward.
I feel like I have lost everything. I tried as a mother but it still wasn't good enough. Now my ex doesn't even get up with the kids before school, they make their own breakfast and lunch, do their own hair and get to school by themselves. I did all this for them when they were living with me. I could complain to family services about him but what good would that do, it would only mean the children were removed and placed in foster care with no parents. I wont do that to my kids.
I can't live in the same city and not see them. I've spoken to my lawyer and he said family services can over rule any court decision and they have. They have taken my visitation away unless my abuser is present.
Tyzz is now off the orders but it has obviously made no difference here where we live.
My son is still in prison, but does want to return to Virginia. I am researching and researching other states that we could move to before he is released to make his life easier. Virginia has a life "sentence" on the registry as do many states and I understand he can petition to be removed after 15 years. But I am at my wits' end to try to find some place suitable. And the laws are...