Not sure which state you are in, but I know here in WI adoption isn't possible for an RSO.

I would not pursue this until he has successfully completed treatment and is off of any kind of DOC supervision. I am not sure how adoption goes but I would guess that social services gets involved. Have you spoken with a lawyer and instead of having him adopt, since you have no family, willing the child to him vs the adoption?

JMHO

We are in MN. I am trying to go the non lawyer route as I really cannot afford to. Willing sounds like a fantastic idea...but then what if they still take the child that is my worry. I will look into this more. Thanks for your help.

In most cases, last wishes are last wishes and are to be honored... how many funny movies have been made from someone that didn't have kids suddenly bequeathed 3 of them. I know that I was willed to an uncle if my parents died, way back when I was under 18.... I didn't like their choice when I found out, was sure they would send me to military school... thank goodness my parents still live... ;)

If there was other family members to fight your husband for custody, then willing the child might be tougher to pull off, but if you truly have no one that would be coming out of the woodwork trying to stake a claim to your child because of a trust or other monetary gain, then you are probably safe just willing the child in the event you pass before they come of legal age.

The other alternative is to just NOT DIE... *grins*

RIGHT!!! And that is my goal! Stay alive :-) I just want to be prepared, and I think that is the route that I will go for now until treatment is done and I know more. There is def no monetary gain hahah. I do have a relative in Florida, but I doubt she would find out first of all as we do not speak, nor try to get my daughter. I will look into willing. Thank you!

I know i have contacted a lawyer a few years back about my husband adopting my daughter and i told the lawyer everything and as he had told me that its a slim chance but it would be based on the exstent of the charge/charges and if the judge will do it. they look at the best interest of the child. call around to any family law lawyer and see if they will talk to u on the phone and see what they would say where you are. best of luck and hopes everything works out for you.

Also.,what is your daughter's current age and yours? I'm guessing young...course I'm 53 so everyone is young to me. My point is...once your daughter reaches 18. She can live wherever and with whomever she wishes !! Continue on researching it..but I hope u all live long & prosper!