And while you're deleting things... delete every other thread and comment I have made in this forum for perish the thought that I dare share an opinion that offends someone .... GOOODDD BYE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm sorry, legal, please don't go, you're a valued member here, at least to me. I may not agree with everything everyone says here, and sometimes some of the comments make me mad even...but I respect everyone's right to say what they feel because just like no one's ever walked in my shoes, I've never walked in anyone else's.

Legal, Pls don't go! One of the things I've been thinking, but holding off saying, is what impresses me about our community is the diversity. To me this thread is witness to this fact.

I agree, please don't go! We all say things that may upset someone else. I admit, I was ticked off about a post and took a break from this forum. But I know that my input can help others, just as your input does.

If you need to take a break, then do so, but please don't leave. Your insight is greatly appreciated.

Legal my post was not aimed at you. I will not apologize for trying to keep things more about the topic of RSO rather than "the black man has been disparaged by the white man forever" kind of stuff.

Anyone that has been in this RSO crap long enough knows that the RSO label is color blind. What it is prejudice again the gender of a person as there are substantially more men on that registry than there are women.

I will not disagree that the way things have worked out for many people that come from extremely depressed areas in metro areas, that are predominantly black in most cases seems to be the place where many prison inmates in this country come from. But when it comes to RSOs those color lines blur to gender lines and color is of no consequence.

Legal, in my experience, when racial stuff is brought up there is a tendency for things to go off the rails and large arguments ensue about something that is so far from the original topic that you can't see it anymore. When I see warning signs I would just as soon nip it in the bud than let it escalate to something that is far worse. Personally I like the fact that you do keep so up to date legally, especially in your state. You ask challenging questions and provide a point of view that is different than many on here, due to your position and relation to an RSO. If you choose to leave, I can't stop you, but really why leave?

We're adults here. I'm tired of people threatening to leave for silly reasons. And I won't beg anyone to stay. It's their loss. I agree, this thread should be done.

people dont like what i said. I'm real living this If ur feelings r hurt by what i said o well i gave my feelings on it. Don't leave because ur question doesn't apply with everyone's life. little grandmas on this site might not agree with me or mine thats ok never been black or understood not suprising to me. at all

Storm, I'm one of the "grandma's". I'm always happy to see your pix and know that you've had something to say. I know your view is going to be different from mine. That's what makes this a truly supportive community, IMO.

Storm, it isn't about what you said, but this is not the forum for it. I can empathize about how sections of society has been targeted in a sense because they just lack the resources to defend themselves properly. The men in society have been targeted as sex offenders regardless if they are really 'sex offenders' that cause harm and not just teenagers being teenagers or some guy that just couldn't hold it until he got home.

Your post was attempting to change the subject of the thread, unintentionally I would assume as the topic of the thread was looking for a debate/discussion and your post was about race just not how it pertained to RSOs.

We are all adults here, my duty to this group is to keep things on topic. If I wanted to talk politics, racism, abortion, etc I would goto or make other groups to discuss those topics as they are not appropriate here.

really no because I see white men getting no time for sex offences and deals and black men getting 30 years to life so thats how i feel and what i've witness. And about what I write on here read or skip it. i will write what I want Know one is forcing you to read it. Just because ur thoughts r different I'm not going to let anyone stop my comments and views on anything . Thats good or bad. People wanna not comment or leave the site because some one doesn't like what they wrote. You shouldn't be made to feel bad because ur life and the way you see thing r different. When legal brought up the subject he was talking about what was on his mind if it didn't apply to u go on to the next tread.

No time? tell that to Nak's son or any of the other children on here or maybe my husband who was sentenced to 15 years before the appeal and still 10 years after the appeal. When it comes to sex offenses, the demographics are not black and white, as my husband saw more white men when he was in prison in the sex offender section of the prison (as they housed them together to avoid the BS of what happens when you don't). When it comes other types of criminal offenses, I will say that it would appear that blacks get the short end of the sentencing stick, but when it comes to sex offenses, there are just as many white men getting the shaft.

I am the owner of this list, that fact alone forces me to read as many posts as I can, which in most threads in most of them. That is my job and service to this list to make it a non-hostile place for them to come and discuss what is happening to them regarding this issue and the baggage that comes with it.

So I am not just able to 'ignore' and move on to the next thread as I have a duty to you and everyone else on here to keep this a civil place to come.

Just an FYI...My son is white and was sentenced to 25 years as an SO.

The system does not care if you are black, white, or green when it comes to sex offenses. They hand out long--and sometimes ridiculous---sentences regardless of color or creed.

While I do agree that black men do get treated worse by the criminal justice system when it comes to drug charges or property crimes, but when it comes to sex offenses, all bets are off.

There are many things I like about this board, but one is that each poster brings something to the table. We are a diverse group. There really are very few "bad" posts. Some opinions I do not care for and some are just wrong, but all posters have something to contribute.

When we have such a diversity, we have an opportunity to learn from each other. I thought I was pretty intelligent, but I have learned so much from others on this site, not only about sex offenses but about life.

When we quit learning or are unwilling to learn, our minds slowly die.

I always try to be diplomatic and respectful. I know everyone here is hurting to an extent, and I would never say anything to bring more pain to people. That is not to say I will not speak out or stand my ground if attacked---or if one of the other posters are attacked----but I like to be a voice of reason.

This is a very valuable board. Sure, we have our spats, but who doesn't?

I may or may not always agree with the moderators, but they have done an excellent job of keeping this place civil. I can remember a time when this place was like the Wild West and too much was being said that was only hurtful, not positive. This forum is better now. A forum that is a literal battlefield does nothing but divide people and run others off.

We are doing fine here.

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Anyway I didn't know every thing had to be in agreement with you if so why did you let him put the tread up if you thought that it was racial which I don't. i though he had something on his mind. It doesn't matter to me where all going for the same thing to get of the list so if we got to tip toe around what you think and how you feel in order to express ourselves i guess i should just give hugs and kisses and leave it at that. since your forced to read everything.

The reality is without actual statistics nobody on here can speak on the subject with authority. The best that can be offered is opinions and viewpoints which is exactly what Legalguardian asked for. Many believe that the registry and sex offenses in general are color blind but does anybody KNOW that? Does anybody really KNOW sentencing for sex offenses is color blind? I seriously doubt anybody does.

For this next part Wisconsin, I'm going to quote you but I'm not picking on you. I'm quoting you hoping to illustrate what I mean.

"When it comes to sex offenses, the demographics are not black and white, as my husband saw more white men when he was in prison"

Trying to be objective about it, if sex offenses are color blind then Wisconsin's husband should have definitely seen more white men than black men. A whole lot more, 5 or 6 times more in fact. But if he saw only 2 or 3 times as many white men, that indicates sex offenses and/or the sentencing for sex offenders aren't truly color blind.