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Today I got a letter from my husband. To paraphrase, he misses me, hated me for leaving him and knows I'm never coming back. And that's it. He wrote me a 3 page letter explaining how he deserves whatever punishment he gets and how he will miss me. The words 'I'm sorry' never came up. He never once apologized for the suffering he put me through. He never apologized for throwing away our 10 year relationship. He never apologized for being selfish or for taking me for granted. I did everything for that man. I put up with him not having a job for the better part of 10 years. I encouraged him, lifted him up and tried my hardest to make him the man I knew he could be. I gave him financial and emotional support for 10 years. And I cant even get an apology for what he has done to me and our marriage? I'm sorry if I sound a bit enraged. I'm not. I am just incredibly sad and heartbroken. How can this be the man I loved for 10 years? How can he be oblivious to the pain and suffering I am going through? It breaks my heart even more than it already was.
I am so sorry that he took a good woman for granted and now you are collateral damage to his crime.
I have been around inmates and offenders for many years, and I can tell you that some people just do not know how to say, “I am sorry.” I am not a psychologist, but I just think some folks are so selfish for their own desires that they have no empathy for others. I am sure they don’t see it that way, as one offender----a twice convicted rapist---told me with a straight face, “If I felt I had something to apologize for, I would do it, but I don’t."
It really hurts when we learn that we have been taken for granted, but you are a decent and strong young lady. You can go on with your life.
Hope you start feeling better soon.
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I'm sorry for you :( I never got any kind of apology either, for wasting my time and anguish and opportunities while through his deceit. It stings... More upsetting, post break up he sent me a text saying it gives him pleasure to think I'll be in a rush now to find someone else to have kids with. What can we do now but just move on the best we can? A quote I'm embracing right now is "Start now. Start where you are. Start with fear. Start with pain. Start with doubt. Start with hands shaking. Start with voice trembling but start. Start and don't stop. Start where you are, with what you have. Just... start"
Message me if you want to chat. I've been through all this and don't mind talking about it.