Cry. It's ok. You need to.
Emotional release is good. After you let it all out, dry your tears, put your big girl panties on and be strong....not only for yourself but for your son. He's going to need someone in his corner. He'll need your support.
It's going to be tough but you'll get through this and so will he.

One day at a time love.

sorry to hear that . I know how it feels, I did lots of crying, Went from shock to disbelief, to tears, anger. You name it I felt it. It was sort of a unreal situation, felt like it wasn't happening to us. He was sentenced Monday so it is now very real and we now have to all stay strong and find away through it all. Work has helped and telling people what has happened also helped. Although be careful who you trust.
It is tough but you will be surprised how strong and determined you become and this site has helped as well.

Thank you for your comments. this is by far the worst thing I've ever dealt with .

This thing is like going through grief let yourself cry it will help but if it gets to much and i won't bs you this is hard work as well as expensive please talk to your doctor.

I'm sorry that you are going through this, I'm in the same boat right now! It so difficult to watch your child be in this situation and we (parents) can't help. I can't sleep anymore worrying about my son. Its hard to do what I need to for myself when my son is in jail and looking at time. How does one move on and be happy while their son is facing prison time?

Hi Music1129,

First and foremost....Hugs to you!
Facing that your child is incarcerated must be making you feel helpless. Worrying though will not help the situation.
Taking good care of you and your health should be top priority right now. You won't be able to help him if you're sick physically and mentally.
Keep busy. Take up a hobby or get into a regular exercise routine. Log in your eating habits.
That'll help you and him in the long run.

My son was wrongfully convicted of murder 7 years ago. I still feel rage, desperation, loss everyday. BUT he is surviving and has learnt to cope and almost accept what has happened. Of course you'll cry. But you will survive. They still need us no matter howhat old they are.❤

As a parent it is so hard knowing that your child is in jail/prison. I've stated on here before that I've done a lot of prison time but the one thing was I never ever wanted any of my kids to go to jail or prison. 2 of my sons are straight up alcoholic's and my middle son now is a recovering heroin addict. He was the one who tried to be like me. I know why he got into it bc it made him feel closer to me. He wasn't raised by me so not being around all his siblings and me left a hole in him. Don't get me wrong he had a loving family that would have given him the world but by the time he was 17 he went out on his own. I was always locked up so I don't know all of this and how he ended up living in San Diego I'll never know. Well I always got this odd feeling after having got myself clean about my son so I'd get on the jail website and let and behold he'd be in there. I'd write him and go to see him even went to pick him up to go into a half way house. It never lasted long and he'd be back in. Then came prison and I'd send packages sometimes money. It would break my heart because he was following in my foot steps. This went on for many years. I'd always know in my heart when he was locked up. It got to where I'd rather he be in there than on streets where one day I'd get a call from the coroner's saying he'd had died. Well one time I got a letter from a prison in North Dakota! How he got there I never got a straight answer but honestly it was the best thing to happen to him. While there he got the help he needed and when he got out here had to go to a home where they helped him get a job that he's still at and a now a manager. He's got a gf and they are saving to buy a house. I don't worry about him now he's been clean going on 3 years. My other 2 sons still struggle with alcohol. I can only pray for them and let them talk when they called me. As a parent it is so hard and the pain is unbelievable but all we can do is to pray. I tell myself that now I know what my parents went through with me. I warned and scared my girls not to every let me hear or see them in a prison with me bc if beat their butts everyday for knowing better. And none of them ever did go. The boys were different. I worry about the other two but do pray for them and leave it with God. All those on here that have children in jail or prison my heart goes out to you.

Its been 7 months in prison for my first time ever arrested son. I still cry everyday. Unfortunately you will be doing a lot of crying. Support groups help. Call a friend you can cry to. I miss him so very much, it's almost like a death in the family. So I know exactly how you feel.

Cry it'll help. My brother is in prison and its the hardest thing ever! One advice I can give is always be there

My son is facing life for a crime he didn't commit. I, too, cry all the time, can't sleep and wonder how to get through this. I pray all the time and we are appealing but that takes time. I never knew our lives could be so turned around. Prison is the worst!