I'm wondering if you would do better to leave him be and work on building your relationship with yourself. That does sound ALLOT like a woman who lives vicariously.

Just wondering. . . There is not allot of info to go on here, Dandigirl.

Hi Danidgirl! Sometimes the best thing is to not try. "if its meant to be set it free, if he comes back it was meant to be" or something like that. If this was a fairly new relationship you could've been seen as being a bit clingy. On the other hand, if my husband is on a business trip I expect to hear from him for at least a short good morning and goodnight. Maybe its different for us cause my husband is pretty attentive anyways. It wasn't like that when we were dating. I remember waiting anxiously for the next call :-) You deserve to have someone in love with you and want to be with you and talk to you. You have great future to look forward to. Blessings <3

Did he outright come out and say that's the main reason or could it be something else? Did you talk about this with him?

Me personally I don't think/feel it's being clingy to want to hear from your partner everyday, especially in our situation, however being that we are in this situation we can't sit by the phone everyday as there are times when they can't call, ie.lockdown, etc,etc.

I have anxiety and my hubz to be has a medical condition so yes I too always want to hear from him but I had to learn how to cope with the weekly letter(s) and monthly calls and know that he's ok and he loves me to the moon and back!

Have a deep talk as to why he broke up. Maybe he was scared that you'd leave him or something. Mine felt like that at one point in time because we have some years to go before he's back home.

They go through a lot of crazy stuff in there and it can mess with their head in a bad way, meaning things being taken out on you that weren't meant for you. I learned this after many months of pulling teeth for my HTB to tell me what's wrong and his butt still shuts me out on certain things, but that's to not have my anxiety go through the roof.

So definitely talk to him and go from there. Good luck!

It sounds like you guys are going to have to compromise. Of course you want to hear from him every day, that's totally normal, but that might not always be possible for him. And if he is made to feel guilty for all the times he couldn't call every time he does have a chance or all it does is lead to arguments, he's not going to want to do it at all anymore. If you're able to talk to him again and intend to try to win him back, my suggestion would be to do so with understanding and compassion for what he's going through- I'm sure it's hard enough for him to be locked up in the first place without having to feel like he's constantly disappointing the people that love him on top of it.